Ovary eptopic pregnancy

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This is all new to me sadly … I just want to share my story as I need support and advice x

23rd December I Had a sudden pain lower down it was painful to urinate to walk but I carried on as normal and went to work ( so silly of me) anyway 2am Xmas eve morning I woke up to agony in my right shoulder I couldn’t sleep I had a instinct to take a pregnancy test ( Evan though I’ve been having periods ) it came back positive to I went straight to hospital … had checks etc

10.30 went for a scan then that was it , I was internally bleeding in my stomatch a lot I got rushed down to surgery they said I had a ovary eptopic pregnancy … they said I’m lucky to be here I had over a litre of internal blood in my stomatch ,

this all happened in 35 min from a scan to being rushed away .

I just can’t get into my head I was carrying a baby and now it’s been taken away from me , I can’t evan think straight with what’s happened I got something so special taken away from me And now I’m left in pain and heartbroken & nothing to look forward to , all over Xmas x

I need some advice on how to deal with this I’m utterly broken x

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Hi Jodie I’m so sorry for your loss and that uv found yourself here on this forum, the first few days are extremely hard! I’m 4 weeks since my ectopic was diagnosed and there’s not a min goes by I don’t think about what Iv lost and if il get it again, Christmas makes it even harder,

Find some comfort with your partner, and look after your needs, cry hard and try to come to terms with the loss, I’m beginning to look foward to ttc again, were you ttc? How did op go, did you loose tube or ovary?

These forums are great to read, there are so many success stories out there, this isn’t the end

Love lily

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Sorry to hear about your loss xx

I’m finding it hard as soon as I try talk about it I cry I just can’t regiater it all in my head ,

I didn’t know I was pregnant I had 2 boys at home only young so it was a shock , can’t imagine going through this again it scares me x I hope you have luck with trying x

I’m lucky they managed to stitch up my ovary and save it as I’m young they tried there hardest to save it so luckily everything’s still in place x just left with the heartbreak x

I go back this week for bloods to make sure the pregnancy has stopped

X

Thankyou x

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Is it normal to feel so confused and upset About it all?

I just keep thinking I nearly died but then I lost my baby x

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Yes I to was crying all day at the very start, don’t beat yourself up about that, crying helps to let it all out and helps you heal!

I’m also very worried about it happening again but the thought of a baby outweighs the risk for me, it was my 1st pregnancy, we were so delighted when I found out for it too be taken away just a week later, life is so cruel xx

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All normal thoughts hunny, I was in a very bad place also, i still haven’t went back to work xx

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I heard it’s good to as it helps to heal it’s just continuous

Fingers crossed it happens for you soon life I horrible at times but hopfully you can be blessed with a baby very soon

ThankYou for replying xx

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The shock is one of the hardest thing to deal with for me and the majority of us had more time than you to get our heads round it pre-op.

It took the hospital two weeks and the sixth scan to find where me ectopic was. By that point it was not only too late for drugs but my tube was filling with blood and had to be removed.

Like lily this was my first pregnancy and I can’t bear the thought of not trying again even though I’m terrified.

This was less than a month ago and it’s still so raw. The fact that you made it onto hear let alone posting - you’re very brave.

I’m so sorry this happened at all let alone the way it did.

Know that there is a lot of support out there- this site included.

X

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3 days after my emergency surgery I’ve tried to go food shopping And it was all to much , I felt like nothing had happened people will see me as a normal person but I feel I’m not I’m heartbroken and still in shock ,

I’m worried how this is going to affect me :frowning:

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Also this may sound very weird but I feel when my body gets back to normal that’s it … I have just got to carry on as normal :frowning:

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Dear jodie sabina,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.

Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task. You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body’s signals and pain and feeling tired are your body’s signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.

The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that’s 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.

While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.

There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.

Sending much love to yourself and all the ladies who have kindly replied to your post. Warm hugs to all,

Karen x

If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?

Further information is available at www.ectopic.org.uk

Email us at ept@ectopic.org.uk.

Our helpline is 020 7733 2653 (available Monday to Friday 10am - 4pm).

Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team.

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How can I mentally get through it ?

4 days after my op as soon as someone asks if I’m ok I burst into tears , I went back to the hospital where it happens to have bloods this really didn’t help

I don’t know how I’m going to get through it :frowning:

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Dear Jodie Sabina,

I completely understand how difficult it is, I too found that going back to the EPU for my regular blood tests very difficult and extremely upsetting.

It really is early days in your recovery and I know it now seems like an impossible task but it does get easier eventually, you just have to take each day as it comes.

It is now 7years since my ectopic pregnancy, I don’t think about my loss on a daily basis as I did when it first happened but I still struggle on anniversary dates.

Please do not put extra pressure on yourself thinking you have to feel better quickly.

Take time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.

We will be here for you for as long as you need,

Sending much love,

Karen x

If we have been able to help you, are you able to help us with a small donation or by volunteering?

Further information is available at www.ectopic.org.uk

Email us at ept@ectopic.org.uk.

Our helpline is 020 7733 2653 (available Monday to Friday 10am - 4pm).

Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team.

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Hi Jodie,

I understand how you are feeling as I feel the same. 6 days after open surgery (tried keyhole but the bleeding wouldn’t stop) I went food shopping. I’m a nurse I knew I wasn’t ready yet I did it anyway in some desperate attempt to make things normal. Hugs to you xx

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Hi Jodie Sabina,

Sorry about your loss. Whet has happened to me, is similar to your situation. I didn`t know I was pregnant, but as I planned a cosmetic therapy, they said I cannot have it, if I am pregnant. So I made a test, and I was surprised, but very happy, that I was pregnant. 3 days later I started to bleed, and 5 days later I had the surgery…my tube was removed, as it was ruptured, and I already had internal bleeding.I have 2 small children, they need me, so I must be O.K. for them. I can totally understand you how you feel.