Me and my husband had being trying to get pregnant since September 08. In December 08 I was pleased to get a faint BFP. The following day my AF arrived. I was confused but not overly worried assuming so many woman miscarry and I couldn’t really complain after all if thats all I had to put up with. Friends were also ttc and each announcement was getting harder to bear when we were still trying with no luck. In May 09 we got another BFP and things were looking promising. Hoever a routine HCG test showed very low and I knew the pregnancy wouldn’t progress from there. I was gutted that 9months since ttc I had another m/c this time having to wait 2weeks to miscarry spontaneously as the Dr said it was too early to do a D&C. I was so excited to get another BFP in July. Finally things looked good. At 4weeks HCG was 71. I was a little worried but knew it was how they were rising that was important. 72hrs later a repeat BHCG showed they were now 62. I was completely gutted. I really thought third time lucky we were going to be ok and I knew if I could just get past those first few weeks everything would be fine. I saw the Obstetrician were I worked who told me it was such an early loose that I should just wait to get my period. I was so angry that he could refer to it as a “period”.
I was trasnferred to emergency a few days later with left sided pain. An ultrasound there showed nothing and I was told I should expect my period within a few weeks. Well 1week later I finally started bleeding. The bleeding was very bizarre. Not at all like a period and no blood really. Full of bits of tissue and mucous. I knew then something wasn’t right and I continued to have left sided pain. I did a HPT which showed a strong positive. So 2weeks after my HCG was 62 I was having strong positive HPT when two weeks earlier when my HCG was going down it was faint. This was when I started suspecting ectopic. IO went to the Dr who said a HPT just shows positive if its positive and comparing lines wasn’t going to tell me anything except HCG was in my system.
A few days later I was back to the Drs who told me to go back to the hospital. I called the hospital who told me they were an emergency system and as I was not in any pain or basically nothing was wrong I shouldn’t present.
A few days later and still with left sided pain and still very positive HPT with the most water like urine I went back to the Dr and demanded a repeat HCG test. I had this done at work the next day and I got onto the computer to see my results an hr later. They were now 5150.
I called my GP as soon as I got home from work and got his receptionist who was very rude and told me to come see him in 3days as he wasn’t there. I then called the hospital who told me to call this other number for advise. In tears I called this advise hotline who told me to get to the hospital now which I did.
I secretly hoped I had m/c a twin and was still very much pregnant.
When I got to the hospital I was greeted by a midwife I worked with. I told her I suspected I had an ectopic pregnancy. She had me seen straight away and finally I saw a Dr who took me seriously. He put in the biggest cannula I have ever seen and they called in a sonographer. It was saturday night and being in a small country hospital the wait was 3hrs to have a scan. I had fluid going to fill my bladder for the scan but in the wait had to go to the loo about 10times.
I Dr did my BHCG again when he put the cannula in and the BHCG was 7000 only 6hrs from the one I had that showed 5150.
Finally I had my scan and was hoping to see a sneaky bean tucked away in my uterus but no surprise my uterus was empty. She searched and searched for evidence and after not finding it said I would need exploritory surgery to find it as clearly with my BHCG rising like it was it was somewhere it shouldn’t be.
She had on last look and there you go. She found it. In my right tube. I knew from ym ultrasound 2weeks earlier that I ovulated in the right side despite having pain in the left side for over 2weeks.
I cried and cried knowing what it meant and I knew I would loose my tube. Not that the Meth drug was an option but I was going to refuse it anyway if it was offered due to a known vitamin deficency I have and knowing it depletes some vitamins.
As there was no free fluid around my tube I had to wait 12hrs for an operating theatre as there was a trauma and being 930pm there was no back up theatres available even in the event it ruptured. I went to theatre at 9am Sunday morning.
I woke up just after 11am having taken and a bit hours to get my tube out with emby. I was then in recovery for 3hrs as they had alot of trouble with my BP and pulse. I was in agony upon waking but the morphine soon made it bearable the physical pain.
I was relieved they didn’t need to open me right up just use the keyhole surgery.
I soon found out I have endo and pelvic inflammatory disease. Both came as a huge shock as although I had painful periods they were not irregular and I have not had an STD before. I had a horrible time as the Dr told me I must have had one recently to get PID. That added a while new spanner to the works as then I was thinking this is great a husband that is cheating on me (how else would I get an STD), no tube, lots of adhesions and trauma inside, plus endo and now I am going to have to kick him out of house.
So my STDS came back clear and when I got home I googled how you get PID and found out its not neccessary from STDS. It was so difficult having lost a baby and tube and then being told it was my fault as I must have had an STD. It was no surprise that they were clear but the pain of being accused was really horrible. I found the nurses really lovely but the Drs were useless.
Thats my story. I just want a baby more then anything right now and feel its so far away. I hope to come back on here and update it with a pregnancy announcement as soon as possible
I am really scared of another EP seeing as now I know I have damage from the PID.