In April we decided to ttc around August. I started charting my cycle and we had sex with out any precautions about 4-5 days before I ovulated. But I thought we were in a safe time to do it so thats why we did - coz I was charting and its unlikey to concieve at that end of things. Because I had been charting, my symptoms indicated I would get my period the next day (which was when I would have exspected it anyway - I`m always regular). And it turned up. And I bleed the normal amount - but my boobs were looking bigger than usual…but I didnt think much about it, until my period just never stopped! After about 10 days bleeding I went to the dr, who couldnt see me till the next week. The nurse did a preg test and it was negative. I just assumed maybe I had a very early term miscarriage and was ok about that. But during all this time I was trying to do my degree and I was feeling really odd and kept almost passing out.
When I saw the Dr the next week he did some blood tests and said they ring me in a few days. But they rang me the next day and said ’ your pregnant’ and I said “I dont think so!”, and I told them that the bleeding had increased and they sent me straight to the hospital. The hospital did more tests and I had to keep seeing them every 2nd day. They were baffled, because my symptoms werent typical for an ectopic, but my HCG (preg hormon levels) werent rising properly. They did internal scans and couldnt see anything - but apparently its unlikey you would before hcg 1000, and I was below that. So they kept sending me home saying, “if you get any sharp pain on your side come in amediatly”. And they were discussing how they would treat me and continued to suck blood out of my arms!
I was worried I was going to die and didnt know what pain to be looking out for. They tell you its very dangerous but then send you home!
One day I did get some peroid type pain, and they admitted me into hosptial that day and operated the next day.
They did keyhole surgey and removed a fetus from my right fallopian tube.
They said there had been some internal bleeding too.
They milked the fetus out, but also cut into my tube further up to make sure no tissue was left.
They also corrected a retroverted uterus and dealt with a small bit of endometriosis. But the surgeon said I had a fair bit and they would deal with it if I took longer to concieve again than 6mths.
Added to that 3 of my closest friends are pregnant and are due the same time I would have been!!
Emotionally its a bit up and down for me.
My period returned about 40 dys post surgery. Its been regualr so far, but a few days longer than it used to be. In the past couple of mths I have had niggles / discomfort on the lower side where the ectopic was.
We will be ttc again in just over a mth. I will be finishing my degree, and we decided to wait till that was done, because I couldnt risk another ectopic so soon to finishing my degree.
I`m anxious about ttc.
After my next period begins (in a day or 2) I will start temping again, because I want to get an idea if I am actually ovulating again.
I`m scared that I will have trouble concieving or have another ectopic.