In 2005 I had my ectopic. Not a day goes by where I do not remember in 2011 I miscarried. I am lucky enough to have 3 beautiful children.
Yesterday a good friend of mine had to deliver her baby who was sleeping. My heart is aching for her. I find myself thinking about my angles but also comparing our losses. I just don’t know what to say to her. Life can be so bitterly cruel. Today I feel so emotional
Dear Louise,
My heart truly goes out to you and your friend.
Losing our much loved babies at any stage of pregnancy can certainly be very difficult to deal with and understand. I know when a close friend of mine had an ectopic pregnancy, it certainly brought back emotions from my experience too. Although this was upsetting, it put me in a unique position to be able to support her.
You say you don’t know what to say to your friend but you have both lost someone that was so precious that you will be able to relate and support her more than you know. Even if you don’t know what to say, an understanding hug can speak volumes.
I must advise that you also look after yourself and just be mindful of your own emotions when supporting others. Please continue to use these forums to gain information and support from those of us who understand how you feel.
Thinking of you both and sending much love,
Karen x
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