Hi everyone
I’m new here, suffered ectopic pregnancy 2 weeks ago. I was in icu after blood loss and had emergency surgery
My emotions are all over the place
One thing that is really hurting me is, no one wants to speak of my pregnancy
My mother In law said tonight it wasn’t even a baby think of it as a freakof nature !!
I just want to talk about what could have been
Have others had the same
Thanks
Dee
Hi Dee I’m so sorry for your loss I completely understand as I’ve had 3 ectopics. My first being the most traumatic. You’ll find those that are happy to talk listen and be supportive and those that just don’t know what to say. I put my last one on Facebook as fed up of it being such a taboo topic and insensitive comments from people asking you about when are you going to have a baby or 'Just the one comment (as I’m now blessed with a beautiful girl) and I got such an amazing response and support.
My advice is there will always be someone willing to listen so speak to them only. You’ll only get upset when you don’t get the response or support you want from those who don’t want to. And if you need to vent when no one is around or it’s 4am like now then come on here. We’ll listen. Sometimes it’s just nice to say your thoughts out loud even on your own just so it’s not going round and round in your head.
Take care and allow yourself to grieve xx
Dear Dee,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
I too found that my family and friends didn’t truly understand how I felt after my ectopic pregnancy. Some people don’t realise how insensitive they can be and I’m so sorry you had to hear that from your mother in law.
I found that people expected me to ‘get over it’ very quickly.
Many women, including myself can feel very isolated after ectopic pregnancy and I like you turned to the Trust for advice and support. Here I found comfort realising that my feelings of loss were completely normal.
It is completely normal to grieve for the loss of our babies and their is no time frame for how long this may be.
Surround yourself with caring people and please continue to use the forums to share feelings amongst those who really understand how you are feeling, we are all here for you.
Please take time to grieve and recover both physically and emotionally,
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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Thank you ladies
I find this support group so helpful
I forgot to mention
The nurses said my baby would be sent away for tests, she didn’t expand at all
Do I get the results? I’m dreading it to be honest
As I don’t know what to expect
Thanks again Dee xx