My poem (4 weeks after)

My life was in danger,

I heard the doctor say.

This has to be done,

There is no other way.

I sat there and prayed,

I held onto little hope,

Although I already knew,

Deep down in my heart.

I’ve never been so scared,

For me but more for mine.

But also the sadness,

That it had to be done.

All my mind could think of,

was please do save me.

I’m sorry but I knew,

I could not save you.

They say it’s for the best,

They say it’s not your fault,

They say you’re safe now,

They say go home and rest.

Can they know the pain,

Understand the fear in me,

Comprehend the guilt I hold,

The never-ending sadness.

Never able to say hello,

Not able to say goodbye,

To never truly explain,

The fear and pain I hold.

Dear Mand22,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,

Thank you for sharing such a personal and heartfelt poem, it truly is so beautiful written and will also give comfort to others reading it, knowing they are not alone feeling the way they do.

Please know that we are here to support you in any way we can.

Sending much love,

Karen x

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

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