Hello
I was rushed into hospital on 31st August 2019 with horrific stomach and shoulder tip pain to the extent i couldnt walk. Unbeknown to me i was pregnant. As if this wasnt a surprise enough i found out it was a ruptured ectopic and i had 5 minutes to get to surgery after having a large amount of internal bleeding in my abdomen. I wasnt with a partner as such at this time and the dad and I were in a "complicated"situation. I felt i carried the burdon of this on my own. It seems to be the unspoken thing in my family ever since physical recovery . It wasnt mentioned over christmas yet i thought of it alot . Had anyone else found it difficult and felt alone after the situation ?it has made me terrified at the thought of pregnancy in the future
Hi Slaude13,
I am so sorry to hear of all you have been through. Ectopic pregnancies are physical and emotional traumas, and they leave us with many emotions to work through. It can be very difficult to express these emotions after an ectopic pregnancy. While family and friends may be supportive, they do not always know how to express it. As well, it can be difficult for us to know how to share our own emotions about the experience.
I found that journaling was a way for me to get my thoughts onto paper, helping me to make sense of my emotions and to share them with friends and family. The Trust also believes that talking therapies can be of great help. You may want to speak to your GP for a referral and a look into counselling or to contact your local Mind centres. We can also arrange for you to speak to someone on our helpline at the number below. Many find it of comfort to speak to someone who has been through the same thing and we can support you alongside the counselling. You will also find more information for support on our website: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
Please know that these boards are here for you, any time, to share or to vent for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
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