Hi! I didn’t know I was pregnant when I went to the local hospital to get the morning after pill, after taking them, (the doctor just gave it, no questions asked.) but after taking it I had a miscarriage, which the same doctor told me I had a reaction to the tablets, it was definitely more as the nurse I saw asked if I had a clot and asked if it was as big a 50p piece. It was and the nurse knew what was happening but the doctor said nothing. With the pain I was in and all of the blood, I could hardly walk yet the doctor sent me home, this was about 15 years ago and I was young, I didn’t want to tell my parents or friends so I suffered through. And isn’t on my medical records. From all of the symptoms and the helpful nurse, iI know it was a ectopic pregnancy miscarriage. But it never went on my medical records as it was cottage hospital. I have had so much trouble conceiving since though, which is driving me mad. I haven’t told my new doctors about this cos it’s such a long story and I really don’t want to hear bad news, but it’s been 15 years! How do I cope? And has people got pregnant after this has happened? Thanks everyone.
Hi
The experience of grief, scary as it may be, is healing and forms part of your own recovery from one of the most significant events likely to have happened in your life. We urge women who have experienced the loss of an ectopic pregnancy to please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself the time you need to grieve.
The chances of a future successful pregnancy depends very much on the health of your tubes. It is impossible to say how long it will take to become pregnant again. The time it generally takes to conceive varies considerably from woman to woman. This can be affected by factors including age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex (intercourse). Some women become pregnant quickly, while it takes longer for others.
The EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive, and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months. The only tests of any real value are performed after a period of trying to conceive without success. If after a year of trying you are not pregnant (or six months if you are over the age of 35) you should visit your health care provider to discuss that and your previous ectopic pregnancy as part of your medical history.
There are many stories from women on the trying to conceive boards on the EPT forum which can offer valuable peer support. There are also positive stories on our pregnant after ectopic boards for you to look at whenever you are ready. Please be gentle with yourself.
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