Mental health after two pregnancy loss (molar & ectopic)

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I had molar pregnancy in 2022, had a dnc and had a regular hcg blood test. I was referred to cancer clinic coz they said my hcg going down slow but it does reach to a plateau level of 19-20.Luckily no further treatment was done as the doc said probably my hcg was originally slightly higher even when not pregnant.

Fast forward to this yr,I had unknown location pregnancy.Had MTX injection and thank god my hcg went down and still monitored now .Latest HCG was 900. Its has been 11 days post MTX and will be doing another blood test soon.

Physically I am on the road of recovery but mentally I always feel alone,anxious and sometimes feel sick to my stomach.I felt scared to go anywhere,even to work. I wasnt given any sick leave post discharge but I requested to be wfh from my supervisor for a week. It feels like i am alone in this and no one even my husband understands my feelings. I feel lost… Does anyone have this issue and how do you cope with this? And how do you get your spouse to support?

I feel like a failure and I still feel weak and cramps on and off … I am not ready to be back to normal life,back to office.Back to where people will be asking me about my absence and I am not ready to be telling the stories of my ectopic pregnancy.

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Dear mamabear,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses. Experiencing one loss is difficult, dealing with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.

You have been through such a lot in such a short space of time. You have had a diagnosis of PUL, which is in itself confusing and worrying as you don’t know what is going on with your body. You have head treatment with methotrexate, which can cause extreme tiredness and means you have to keep going back to hospital for blood tests and also had to deal with the loss of your baby. Experiencing any one of these an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal and understandable.

Experiencing an ectopic pregnancy can be completely overwhelming and it sounds as though you have not given yourself any time to process what has happened as you have gone straight back to work. Whilst this can be a positive step, like a distraction for some, for others it just adds to the pressure and doesn’t allow time and space needed to process everything. It maybe worth asking for some time off if you can. You can self certify for seven days or speak to your GP for a for note if you are in the UK.

Please be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve and heal both physically and emotionally.

You have friends here who understand and we will be here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love and warm hugs,

Karen x

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