I was treated with methotrexate in September for an ectopic pregnancy, it took a long 10 weeks for my levels to return to normal and I found the whole experience quite traumatic to deal with
During this time I saw my GP who has been very helpful and diagnosed me with depression and put me on anti depressants. I have been on these since end of November and I am having counselling but I am still finding that the sadness of losing a much wanted pregnancy is with me every day. I work in quite a high pressure job but am finding myself not as bothered about work or plans with family/friends and I just feel like all I can think about sometimes is the loss
I just wondered if anyone else had experienced depression after an ectopic and had any coping mechanisms or stories of hope
This forum has been a great comfort to me when I have been struggling so I thought I would reach out
Dear Bea,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss. It can be normal to feel low following the ordeal of ectopic pregnancy. I am glad you are seeking support through your GP and talking therapies.
A study has also found that 30% of people who experience ectopic pregnancy, also develop Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD). These symptoms include flashbacks and negative thoughts around the experience, avoiding situations and people, trouble concentrating, sleeping problems and headaches to name a few.
If any of these symptoms feel familiar, it maybe worth writing down how you feel. Speaking to your GP or therapist/counsellor about this may be helpful as there may be more specific therapies that would be more beneficial for you.
Journaling is also a really good way of writing down our thoughts and feelings and can be a really good method to help with low mood and anxiety. As silly as it sounds, I also found gentle walks and being out in the fresh air really helpful.
We also have email and telephone support if you feel this would help. We will be here for you in any way you wish (contact details below).
Please be kind to yourself too. Sending much love and gentle hugs,
Karen x
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One thing that I think helped me was a grief app. It was something provided by my work employee assistance programme, not cheap but I’m sure there are free versions too. It encouraged thinking about the loss, what you have lost and also what you can enjoy or look forward to and be grateful for.
I found myself being stressed about work before Christmas which was hugely different than when I went back to work after sick leave in July, then I had no motivation whatsoever then and just didn’t care about the work. I still don’t think I’m back to the attention I was giving work before though, everything is put into perspective with grief and illness. Don’t beat yourself up for this knocking you off course, it’s a huge thing to deal with.
I hope you find some things you can truly look forward to and enjoy, big or little.