Life after Ectopic

Back in November I sadly had an ectopic pregnancy and this resulted in losing my left tube. I have found some comfort in this site knowing I’m not the only been through this. Becoming unwell quickly lead to lots of thoughts ( why me, am I only one been through this) these were the types of thoughts I had until I found this site. 4 months on and I’m still struggling mentally to come to terms with what happened, as everyday I’m saying " what if " .

4 months have passed and I am wanting to try again, but my head says is it too early. How soon after have others tried and been on to have a successful pregnancy?

Xx

Hi Amy97,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. The physical and emotional loss can leave us with so many questions.

Generally, the Trust and other medical professionals advise you to wait for at least three months or two full menstrual cycles (periods) before trying to conceive for physical and emotional reasons.

Physically, this timeframe allows your cycle to return and for a clear Last Menstrual Period (LMP) date to date a new pregnancy. The LMP date is used to decide when to scan a pregnancy; information is invaluable in ensuring you are not suffering from another ectopic pregnancy. Your first proper period after an ectopic pregnancy is likely heavier than usual, and the second is more like your usual period. A normal period would suggest you are hormonally ready to be able to try to conceive. Having two periods can also give an idea of menstrual cycle length, which may differ for a few months after your ectopic before settling into its usual rhythm. This wait allows the internal inflammation and bruising from the ectopic and any associated treatment to heal.

In addition to the physical aspects of ectopic pregnancy, many women also feel an intense emotional impact. Taking time before trying to conceive again enables the necessary grief process to surface and be worked through. The emotional recovery that is often needed can be significant, and many underestimate this aspect. Some studies suggest that women who conceive immediately after treatment for ectopic pregnancy are more at risk of suffering a subsequent ectopic and, as painful as it is to think about, the incidence of miscarriage (which is not linked to an ectopic pregnancy) is 1 in 5 pregnancies, so taking that extra bit of time enables you some emotional recovery to feel strong enough to face whatever is coming next should there be further bad news.

However, taking folic acid for at least 12 weeks is recommended before conception.

I found that journaling was a way to get my thoughts onto paper, helping me make sense of my emotions and share them with friends and family. The Trust also believes that talking therapies can be of great help. You may want to speak to your GP for a referral and a look into counselling or to contact your local Mind centres. We can also arrange for you to speak to someone on our helpline at the number below. Many find it of comfort to speak to someone who has been through the same thing, and we can support you alongside the counselling. You will also find more information for support on our website: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/

We understand how nerve-wracking this all can be. We are here for emotional support, and these Boards are a safe space for you. We here for as long as you need.

With good wishes,

Michele

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

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Hi Amy,

Sorry to hear about your experience.

I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy last September which resulted in my right tube being removed. I was very tired for a little while after my op and so my doc took bloods which showed my B12 levels were extremely low so I was advised to not try conceive until my levels were at a good level again as can cause problems for baby if I had conceived before getting my levels up. I had the loading dose of B12 injections and had 2 periods and very luckily conceived and I am now 17 weeks pregnant. I frantically searched for positive stories when I had my ectopic… I am in my mid 30s and with one tube left I thought my chances were slim but I have been able to get pregnant. Having an ectopic is a very traumatic experience, wishing you all the best x

Hi Claire,

Thanks for replying. I’ve just been told I’ve low vitamin D as I had my bloods done recently too as I’m still constantly tired.

If you don’t mind me asking did you track your LH or not. I’ve tracked last month and became obsessed with it so binned all the tests, and haven’t tracked this month. Xx

Congratulations Claire! I am so happy for you!

Thank you for sharing your positive story.

I had an ectopic treated in November with MTX and I am in the current stage of googling success stories!!

Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best with your pregnancy xxxxx

Hi,

If you feel emotionally ready to try again then I would say it’s time to now.

My plan is to conceive after having two periods. I’ve only stopped miscarriage bleeding two weeks ago. I think emotionally I’ve grieved already because I miscarried bled for 12 weeks and my hcg initially dropped 14 weeks ago. My etopic pregnancy was a long process.

I woukd try after my first period but just want to make sure my cycle is OK.

Hi everyone, I come here in hope of similar support. I had an ectopic a year ago and I’m finally in an emotional position to try again. I feel I’ve exhausted the ears of my friends and family talking about it, it really was so traumatising.

I wonder did anyone experiencing conceiving differently after? I am lucky enough to have a child and she was so easy to conceive, and actually my ectopic pregnancy was too, but now trying again I’m not having any success. I’m becoming obsessed! I think about it constantly and I find myself resenting people with easy pregnancies, something which makes me feel horrible. I’m so sorry for all of us on here and hope we can provide each other hope and support xx

Rebellioushope:
Hi everyone, I come here in hope of similar support. I had an ectopic a year ago and I’m finally in an emotional position to try again. I feel I’ve exhausted the ears of my friends and family talking about it, it really was so traumatising.

I wonder did anyone experiencing conceiving differently after? I am lucky enough to have a child and she was so easy to conceive, and actually my ectopic pregnancy was too, but now trying again I’m not having any success. I’m becoming obsessed! I think about it constantly and I find myself resenting people with easy pregnancies, something which makes me feel horrible. I’m so sorry for all of us on here and hope we can provide each other hope and support xx

I agree, etopic pregnancies are horrible for every woman who experiences them. It’s totally understandable to analyse, research and talk to your friends and family ears off after a traumatic experience. I’ve found people keep thinking it was just a miscarriage, it’s like a miscarriage is normally a threat to a baby, but an etopic pregnancy is also a threat to the woman. It’s a big deal. The fact it’s meant to be so rare makes it so much more frustrating.

My experience is still quite fresh, in some ways mine wasn’t too bad as even though I was told I could collapse, die and bleed out, I never ruptured and had mtx injection but I still live with that fear in my head and it’s still a real fear that if I try again i may have another etopic pregnancy and worst. I feel like I’m older so I should try as soon as I can which I will but it’s still very scary. Also the i was in physical pain for 10 long weeks. So you are not alone. :smiling_face: Everything you are feeling is very natural and only you can decide if trying for a baby is worth the risk of another etopic pregnancy. I was told monitoring would happen at 5 weeks because of having an etopic pregnancy so hopefully that should take some of the worry away, like for me it was out of nowhere, pain, bleeding, A and E. Hopefully all that won’t happen again.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me and sharing your experience. I never thought of it like that until you said, we were at risk too. You’re so right and that was completely part of the trauma.

Know that while it’s still fresh for you it does get easier (we havent tried again until now for other reasons tbh). I have talked to a lot of people about it and that helped. I also had some free counselling sessions through a charity which really helped me look to the future. From what I’ve read having one doesn’t hugely increase the chance of having another, just a very small amount.

I’m older too so time I feel is not on my side. I’m worried this whole having one tube thing isn’t helping me conceive although everyone I’ve spoke to says it isn’t a big deal.

I suppose getting pregnant would also put all that behind me a bit more, that sounds heartless, but if you’ve suffered an ectopic you deserve a break!! Xx

I know exactly how your feeling at the minute. As those are my exact thoughts, as I’ve also lost one of my tubes and we have began trying again.

If you wanna chat about anything feel free to message me as your current situation sounds very like Me at this moment in time. I find comfort in talking to others who have been through similar x

Dear Amy and Rebellioushope,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy losses,

It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We experience a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget but we can learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead. In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes. Importantly early scans avail. As soon as you know you are pregnant, contact your local EPU to inform them and book in for an early scan at around six weeks. Remind them of your previous ectopic pregnancy. This self refer route is the best route in our view. Hopefully you will have some comfort to know you are under the radar of medical professionals right away.

The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that’s 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.

While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.

Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months.

Generally, when a person has only one fallopian tube and both ovaries, they are still able to get pregnant from an egg at the opposite ovary as an egg from one ovary can travel down the tube on the other side. The fallopian tubes are not attached to the ovaries and, at the point of ovulation, some very delicate structures called the fimbriae begin to move gently creating a slight vacuum to suck the egg toward the end of the tube it is nearest to (like lots of little fingers waving and drawing the egg towards it). So, if you have only one tube then there is only one set of receptors working and one set of fimbriae creating a vacuum and so the egg is much more likely to find its way to that tube, whichever ovary it is produced from. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time.

We have more information on our website which you may also find helpful

https://ectopic.org.uk/physical-recover … eive-again

Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We here emotional support whenever you need us.

Sending much love,

Karen x

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

Registered Charity Number: 1071811

The EPT is awarded the PIF TICK as a Trusted Information Creator, the UK-wide quality mark for healthcare information


If the information provided here or through the EPT website has helped you, you can donate towards our support services, volunteer, or fundraise to raise awareness.

Further information is available on our website.

Email us: ept@ectopic.org.uk

We provide a call-back support line: 020 7733 2653. We are able to provide support in multiple languages including British Sign Language.

Take a look at our newsletters and subscribe to our mailing list.

Detailed medical information can be found on our website. Please remember online medical information is NO SUBSTITUTE for expert medical advice from your own health care team