Hi, I recently had an ectopic pregnancy in December 2015. It was my first ever pregnancy and now I’m not sure what’s happening. I love my boyfriend so much but since having the pregnancy removed and losing my right tube I’ve been having mixed emotions. I want to try again to have a baby but on the other hand I’m scared stiff in case it’s turns into another ectopic. I know I should talk to my boyfriend but at the moment I feel that I can’t because I know he’s having troubles with coming to terms with what has happened, as the baby would of been his first as well. Before what had happened we had a good sex life but now I feel like its practical non existed. I don’t know if this is about what has happened or that we are both scared of what might happen or is it just me making a mountain out of a mole hill? Any help and advice would be gratefully accepted.
Hi Ellie,
No its not just you sweetheart, and the way you’re feeling is certainly not making a mountain out of a molehill. Its a perfectly natural, normal way to feel after the trauma that you’ve been through. I had a ruptured ectopic (22 wks pg) after going through 5 previous losses to stillbirth/miscarriage, so I know exactly how you’re feeling right now. My ep ended all hope of me having another go, but I would have had I not been warned that the next time might kill me.
Give yourself some time to grieve your loss, and try to talk to your boyfriend, bear in mind that men feel badly because they are “fixers” at heart, and this is something that they just cant fix. I know its scary for you, but maybe in a little while you may be feeling a little more positive. Hope this helps, sending you gentle hugs xx
Hi Caggif, thanks for replying. Its good to know I’m not alone. I’m just waiting now for an appointment to have a polyp removed from my womb then hopefully we will be blessed with the patter of tiny little feet. I’m just going to take it day by day and see what the future holds for me and my boyfriend.
Try to talk about this with you boyfriend maybe he will understand your situation