Hi,
I’m putting this out there as I’m really in need of some advice and support…
I had an ectopic and right tube removal last August after 7 months of trying to conceive a sibling for my nearly 3 year old. We’ve been trying again since November without any luck and I just feel like it’s never going to happen. I recently went back to my GP who arranged Blood tests, scan and Hycosy through an NHS consultant which have all come back as ‘Normal’. When I saw the consultant just before my Hycosy she said that if it my remaining tube was blocked then my only option would be IVF done privately, and if it was clear, my option would be to keep trying naturally for as long as I felt I could before looking at IVF…either way, there was nothing more she could help me with.
Now that the Hycosy has come back normal I feel pretty abandoned in terms of medical guidance… I don’t know how long I can keep trying naturally and not getting anywhere for as I’m finding the whole thing utterly devastating, but at the same time I know that IVF is far from a sure thing… I don’t have a clue where to start in terms finding a good clinic or even finding some decent advice on what my next steps are.
I know I should be really pleased that my results are all normal, but I guess in the back of my mind I was hoping for some kind of magic pill/procedure that could make everything better(!), and now I just feel that time is running away from me and I don’t know what to do!..My family and friends know about the ectopic but I haven’t shared any of this follow up stuff with them as I know it would upset them to realise what a mess I am at the moment so I’m also feeling pretty isolated…
Sorry for the ramble, I guess i’m just looking for any advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation, or some good news stories to help me stay positive!!
Dear lauzie,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
It is natural to be worried after everything you have been through. Sadly even with IVF there is the risk of ectopic pregnancy. However it is important to remember that help is available and your doctors should book you in for an early scan at around six weeks to check that the embryo is in the right place. You can also contact your local Early Pregnancy Unit direct and self refer for an early scan. This can also give you peace of mind that you have the care available should you need some reassurance.
Sadly I am not medically trained so I cannot give you specific advice and as we are a charity, we cannot recommend specific clinics.
I would advise discussing this with your GP who maybe able to advise you further.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Hi, I also have a 3 year old and had an ectopic last May, managed with Methotrexate. We have been trying since October with no success. It is really hard. I have since had a laparoscopy, dye test and hysteroscopy and all ok. I even seem to no longer have endometriosis but no pregnancy. I have got us referred to Homerton Fertility Centre (we live in East London) and we have our first appt in Sept so getting blood tests done and partner will have semen analysis. I’m 35 and didn’t feel I could wait or give up. It’s tough, I am trying the forum as I really feel like because we already have a child no one thinks our problem matters. I have two friends and my sister doing ivf at the moment so I feel like at least I know what it entails. I hope things work out for you. I think your instinct will guide you xxx
Hi!
I totally understand what you are feeling!
I have a missed miscarriage in April 16 and eptopic in July 16 with tube removal due to rupture I was 8 weeks pregnant. They also gave me a d&c whilst removing my tube. We have be trying without success the past 16 months, I’ve had a HSG which showed my remaining tube clear. I just don’t understand that I haven’t been able to get pregnant, I fell so easily before this event! I have decided to go and pay for hystroscopy to see if the inside of my womb is ok after my D&C which I am petrified! And will then go forward with IVF on the NHS, but am loosing hope that I will ever be able to have a baby!
Did you decide to go for IVF in the end?
Naomi