Lost one tube, the only one is blocked, fear for IVF

Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy
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Hey everyone,

Sorry for bringing another negative topic here, really don’t know where else I can go share my feelings and the experiences in the past 9 months. Speaking to a psychologist at turn, but she’s not the right one, looking for someone who’s specialized in miscarriage and post sugary trauma now.

I have had a miscarriage in Jan 2019, then miscarried with ectopic pregnancy in Feb 2020. Lost my left tube from the surgery, it was the most devastating experiences. I carried on and slowly build myself up in the past few months. Just when I thought things should be easier for me, but no, I have a uterine fibroid keeps growing bigger, doctors strongly suggest me to remove it before trying to conceived again.

Had laparoscopic surgery a month ago, now almost recovered physically. Mentally I’m in a very bad place, through the fibroid removing surgery , the doctor checked my right side Fallopian tube, sadly looks completely blocked. Doctor tried to injected 1 liter liquid through the tube, nothing came through.

Now I have to wait another 5 more months until my uterus wall is completely healed so we can start IVF trail. My husband is turning 44 in a month, I’m not young either, clock is ticking quick for us. Really praying something good will happen to us eventually.

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Dear islandgirl8,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses. To experience one loss is difficult to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.

Coupled with the news that your remaining tube appears to be quite blocked, your emotions at this time are quite normal, and you have every right to feel the way you feel.

I am sorry your psychologist didn’t work out for you and I hope you find another who suits as coming to terms with emergency surgery and the loss of our babies and fertility can be immense.

We are here too, we operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.

Please be kind to yourself and I send you very big, warm hugs,

Karen x

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