Sorry this is a long post but a positive one … I had a ruptured ectopic in June 2016, at 6 weeks pregnant, and lost my left tube. My husband and I had only been married for 3 months and were devestated by the ectopic.
We started ttc in October 2016 and it took us a whole painful year to finally fall pregnant again.
We booked an early scan at 8 weeks and our little miracle was definitely in the right place this time. It didn’t stop us both from worrying that it was all going to go wrong, but we made it to 12 weeks and saw our little one wriggling around on the monitor.
I’m now 17 weeks and 5 days pregnant, still early days in the grand scheme of things but I’m determined to enjoy it and not spend this precious time convincing myself that the worst will happen.
I wanted to post this as hopefully someone might read it who is really in need of a bit of hope. Some people can conceive quickly with no trouble, for some it takes longer.
About a month after my ectopic I started getting anxiety attacks, I didn’t want to go outside, I distanced myself from friends who were having babies, I found it very hard to cope and sometimes I felt weak and pathetic for feeling this way. I now understand it was all part of the grief. I started seeing a counsellor in Feb 2017 and it really changed things for me. I would recommend this to anyone, just being able to talk openly to someone made a huge difference in my life.
If you are struggling at the moment with what’s happened to you and how your life has changed after your ectopic, please done lose heart, miracles do happen and will happen for you.
Take care of yourself, talk about what happened, give yourself time and things will get better 