I found out this NYE I was pregnant, we think around 8 weeks. Had emergency surgery the same day as it was ectopic.
Pregnancy was definitely not planned as husband has had a (recent) vasectomy and I take the pill absolutely correctly. I have three kids (2, 12 and 15).
I honestly don’t know what we’d have done if the pregnancy had have been I’m the right place, especially considering we had taken every precaution to avoid it. At eight weeks the decision to terminate would have been very difficult but possibly the right decision under the circumstances.
I feel incredibly guilty for feeling this way and wonder if anybody else has felt a similar way?
I am sorry for your losses x
Hi Lorla01,
I am so sorry to hear that you have suffered this ectopic pregnancy and loss. Even if we were not ready for a pregnancy, suffering from an ectopic pregnancy is still a physical and emotional trauma. It can bring up many emotions, even relief. There have been other women on these boards who have expressed similar feelings, and these are all valid and part of the experience of pregnancy, which is individual for each of us.
Your experience is so recent, that I hope you are having some time for rest and recovery. Please know that we are here for you throughout your recovery and for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
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Sounds very similar to me. I found out i was pregnant 22nd December, it’s the first person I’ve dated since i split with my babies dad. Literally only slept together a handful of times and i have the coil. I was operated on 31st December so still dealing with things. I was left to wait 5 hours before the hospital checked me and in surgery 2 hours later, by then I’d started to bleed into my liver.
They said to wait 3 weeks to do a pregnancy test but I did one yesterday and cried because it still shows positive. Seems like I’m clinging to it even though it was never meant to be. The whole thing is just so overwhelming with guilt and sadness x
Dear Jayneu,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss.
It can be completely overwhelming and you have every right to grieve even if the pregnancy wasn’t planned. You have been through a big ordeal in such a short space of time and it is still really early on your road to recovery.
He kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
We will be here for you for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Thank you so much to you all for taking the time to reply; it is comforting to know I am not alone and it’s OK to not quite know how to feel.
Here’s to brighter days ahead.
L xx