I had an ectopic pregnancy last July and am now currently 17 week pregnant.
Naturally I am worried about everything, I am hyper aware of being cautious as I know this baby is very much wanted and I wouldn’t do anything to risk it.
Someone asked me today do I know how I will cope once the baby is here, would the ectopic have altered how I will feel? I currently feel as though I wont be able to relax/enjoy this pregnancy until baby is born, almost like I cant believe its real (midwife is aware and said following a loss this is normal). That and the comment of after its born I wondered how people have/haven’t been affected once the baby was born following an ectopic.
Would love to hear any thoughts on this.
Thanks in advance
I don’t have any answers on what happens after baby is born, as I’m still waiting for mine to come (currently 10 days past due date), but can tell you that I started to relax and enjoy my pregnancy after about 30-32 weeks. I think because at that point, baby has a good chance of survival if born early, and because I could feel her move every day and know she was still in there and moving around.
Congrats on being 17 weeks! Things will hopefully start to feel more real once you hit some more milestones, like the 20 week scan, the feeling the baby move, etc. I know that helped me.
I think I’m goi g to really enjoy her once she arrives! I bet you will too!
Firstly congratulations hope she doesn’t keep you waiting too much longer!
I wonder if the 20 week scan will help, as I think mentally then I’ll allow myself to buy something, go through my sons things, prepare the baby’s room which might help.
I think the stage I’m at is hard cause I don’t think I look pregnant at the moment. I just look chubby so maybe looking pregnant might help.
Best of luck with the birth x