Hi All. New to all this. 3 days ago has agonising pain felt like being winded. Didn’t feel the same as period thought I could shrug it off went to bed that night the day after I remember waking up with a pain like a pulled muscle didnt think anything of it so went to work. Had serious same pain when was in work then remember going to throw up. I was sent home straight away as I work in hospitality and did a pregnancy test straight away even tho it was the last thing to cross my mind as I was on the IUD. I remember being shocked about the pregnancy but filled with joy. But i remember reading up about ectopic as i thought if the baby cannot be implanted into the uterus it has to be implanted outside. But when the nurse told me the coil had dropped into my cervix I thought the baby could possibly have still ended up in the uterus. Long story short i was told it was ectopic my heart dropped then I was told they were gonna take blood to check hormone level. I did not understand any of this. I went in at 11am yesterday and was not allowed to go home at all. They told me because my hormone level was over 5000 I wasn’t able to have the injection and I could speak to a consultant for a second opinion as I was thinking the worse at this point. I thought my chances of being a mum was over even though I’m only 27 and didn’t want children yet. The thought of that option being taken away was devastating to me. I felt guilt and felt like it was all my fault. So I had surgery yesterday evening at 5pm. Today they told me my right tube is okay. But they removed the left. My only worry is I have had PID before and I currently have HPV which hasn’t cleared up. Is it likely this ectopic pregnancy will happen again. I’m terrified and I feel like I have let my husband down as I feel like I’m obviously inadequate to carry a child. 
Dear Amb,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. From your own words I can imagine what a frightening experience this was and I am sorry you have had to go through this.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal and understandable. It is very common for us to blame ourselves following ectopic pregnancy however, there is nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. From the bottom of my heart, you are not to blame and you certainly are not inadequate. Please be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
The chances of a further ectopic after a first in UK is 10%. So that’s 90% chance of the embryo being in right place next time.
While generally it is possible to conceive after an ectopic pregnancy, the amount of time it takes varies from couple to couple. Factors include age, general health, reproductive health and how often you have sex, among other things. It may be comforting to know that 65% of women are successfully pregnant within 18 months of experiencing an ectopic pregnancy and some studies suggest this rises to around 85% after two years.
Importantly, help is available if conceiving naturally has not yet been successful after some time trying - and the EPT advises that women under 35 should seek medical advice following 12 months trying to conceive and those over 35 should seek advice after 6 months.
Following surgery, we advise that you should take it very easy for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time so please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others. One day you may be okay and the next you may be in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body signals. Pain and feeling tired are your body signals to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy diet drinking lots of water and resting.I
Ectopic pregnancy can be very isolating, these boards are filled with women who have had similar experiences and we are all here for you. Please continue to lean on us for as long as you need,
Sending much love and gentle hugs,
Karen x
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