Oh guys I don’t even know what to say but I really have to vent you know, I had an ectopic in July had to have my left tube removed, end of July had my first period then august I had a period then September come and no period… done a test and it come back positive … I was pregnant and over the moon but petrified , rang my egu and they wanted me to come for a scan at 5 weeks, cutting this long story short… 4 days before my 5 week scan I began to bleed and have pain … rushed to the egu for them to tell me I’ve had a chemical pregnancy, I’m so gutted I just feel useless… they tell you oh remain positive but I just can’t you know, just found out my son is gonna be a big brother on his dads side and I’m so happy for him but at the same time so sad that I can’t do that for him , I feel useless in myself and now I’m beginning to wonder what is wrong with my body … I suffer with anxiety and now I’m thinking could it be my anxiety that’s doing this ? But hand on my heart I am never taking another pregnancy test again … gonna let nature do it’s course and hope for the best one day x
Hi Dems23,
Thank you for sharing your words and feelings with us. We are united in experiencing the trauma and loss of ectopic pregnancies. I know how hard and how lingering these feelings can be. It is so natural to grieve for what might have been, and seeing other babies is a stark reminder of what we have lost. Journaling and writing was a key piece in my recovery, but the Trust also recommends talking therapies as an important tool for our healing.
If you are interested in exploring counselling, we suggest that you ask for a referral by your GP or use a practitioner who has undertaken recognised training and is registered with the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy. It is also a good idea to look for someone who has an interest in the area of women’s health or fertility problems. The charity MIND also can provide counselling with trained practitioners locally at affordable prices. Counselling charges are means-tested (you pay what you can afford) and so you may receive counselling support for a nominal fee or even for free.
Please know we are with you and we are here for you for as long as you need.
Sending extra warm hugs and love to you.
With good wishes,
Michele
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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Thanks for sharing, I sympathize with your situation. Sorry for your loss.