Covid-19 great timing for a new pregnancy

Pregnant After Ectopic Pregnancy
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Hi all,

I am new to this forum and have never posted on anything like this before. I don’t really know what I am looking for by posting but I feel so alone with these thoughts I wanted some support from fellow mums!

So here is my story

Around 13 years ago I suffered from an Ectopic pregnancy, it was an accidental pregnancy and I wasn’t in a serious relationship at the time. When this happened I ended in surgery and never really gave much thought that my right tube had been removed (I really don’t think I understood the seriousness)

After that I met what I thought would be my forever partner and fell pregnant again not planned and that resulted in the healthy birth of my twins who are now ten.

After this I separated and met the actual love of my life (current partner) we spoke about having children and being (34me and 41) decided to try last year. We fell pregnant straight away and had an early scan which showed a heartbeat and baby. Unfortunately I returned the following week to find out the baby had stopped beating and opted for a D&C. I went in for surgery and suffered an internal bleed from it. This meant a subsequent surgery and 7 days in hospital. It was awful just terrible.

I thought last month i was over it and would like to try again so we did and again I fell pregnant straight away. I have just found out and am petrified something bad will happen again. I made the mistake of not showing my partner how sad I was by the last experience that I cannot explain the anxiety of this time. Also, neither of us want to be happy just in case something bad happens. I am a nervous wreck that any twinge could be an issue and every day seems to drag.

I guess I am looking for some positivity and reassurance especially during a time whereby the local EPU will not scan unless you have symptoms. I guess I just need to take each day as it comes but I feel like a ticking time bomb.

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Hi Victay,

Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry that you are going through this worrying time. Many women find ttc and future pregnancies to be an anxious time following an ectopic pregnancy and loss. These feelings are made more difficult during this pandemic.

Right now, it’s so important to be gentle with yourself. You may be feeling many emotions from your previous experiences. I found that journalling was a way in which I could put my thoughts on paper to help me process them. In time, I was able to share those thoughts and feelings with my partner which helped in my recovery.

It’s difficult not to be able to have the answers right now. As much as you can, try to focus on the positive. I know that is easier said than done. Of course, be mindful of any symptoms you are having. You may want to keep track of these, noting time, date, intensity. Certainly, if you are experiencing heavy bleeding or pain, especially shoulder tip pain, it’s important to receive medical care or be seen at your A&E.

Please take these days slowly and look after yourself. We are here for you for anything you need.

With good wishes,

Michele

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

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Hi Michelle,

Thank you for your kind and supportive words. I am trying to remain positive and upbeat while taking each day as it comes. I have a busy and hectic day job along with home schooling the twins so plenty of distractions. Although it doesn’t stop me from reading terrible stats and facts on google (really trying to limit myself)

Take care and appreciate your support