Hi there
In January 2021 I went for an early scan at Epu at 6 weeks pregnant. I was told I was having a misscaridge and it would come away naturally and no need for a follow up. 5 weeks later in Febuary I collapsed at home, rushed to hospital for emergency surgery for a ruptured ectopic. I lost my right tube. The pregnancy was in the tube the whole time they just missed it on the first scan. I suffered PTSD since and am now recieving councelling for this. We have just started ttc again this month and I am hoping and praying it will happen for us soon. I guess Im just looking for some (pregnancy after ectopic) positive stories to give me some hope.
Thank you
Hi Armstrong1,
I am so sorry to read about your ectopic pregnancy and loss. These boards are filled with people who have been through similar experiences and can understand the physical and emotional traumas of ectopic pregnancies. They are also filled with positive stories which can help heal the pain and move you forward.
Please be patient with yourselves and give yourselves the time to heal. Take all the time you need. There is no set time for which to move through these emotions, and every woman and couple go through at their own pace. As well, If you think it may help, we can certainly arrange to speak to you about what you have been through and be a shoulder to lean on. My colleagues and I have also experienced ectopic pregnancies and understand how heartbreaking it is. You can ask any questions or simply tell us about the horrible time you have been through. You can also look at counselling services and emotional recovery support on our website under Patients/Emotional recovery.
Making the decision to begin trying to conceive is an emotional rollercoaster compounded by our sad loss. Again, you are not alone. We here emotional support whenever you need us.
With good wishes,
Michele
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I’m so sorry to hear of your experience. Losing a baby at any stage is so painful but the trauma of an ectopic pregnancy, and the worry of the impact that might have on your future fertility, just adds another layer to the loss. I had an ectopic pregnancy in October 2020. I found out I was pregnant at around 6 weeks and by 7 weeks found out it was ectopic. I had bleeding, which sent me to the EPU for a scan and confirmed the pregnancy was ectopic. I was initially prepped for surgery but this was called off on the basis that my hormone levels already seemed low and they thought my body may already be dealing with the pregnancy naturally. I was sent home under expectant management and my hormone levels were monitored for the following two weeks until they reached near zero.
I was fortunate to have a period quite quickly. From the epu visit on 6 October I then got my first period on 23 October and my cycles got back to normal straight away from there. I know that makes me very lucky and it isn’t the same for everyone.
I had one more period in November and found out I was pregnant again on 18 December. I am currently at 32 weeks and expecting another girl (I have an almost 3 year old daughter).
This pregnancy has been so challenging in a lot of ways and I have had (and still have) a constant fear that something might go wrong. It took me a long time to tell people I was pregnant, I just couldn’t feel confident it was going to last. Nonetheless, I am trying to take every day as it comes and right now I am still here, still pregnant and feeling more hopeful with every day that passes.
I realise that not everyone is fortunate enough to fall pregnant again so quickly but I did want to share a positive story. I was so devastated by my loss but what made it worse was the possibility of struggling to conceive again. I would love to think that my story might give someone some hope, especially in the immediate aftermath of what were certainly my darkest days.
One thing I did do was invest in a good quality fertility monitor, which I started using as soon as my period came back. It helped me, personally, to feel like I was taking back some control over my body. It might not be for everyone but, for my personality, it made a big difference in helping me get through the loss and the first few weeks and months.
I wish you all the very best. I don’t think we will ever fully ‘get over’ this experience and the child that has been lost but please know that it gets easier to cope, with time, and it is certainly possible to conceive again with a positive outcome.
L x