I really thought this would be our month. I’ve felt quesy, dizzy and was weeing lots, Google advising everything I wanted to hear.
But on waking this morning to that familiar deep abdominal pain on day 1 of af, my hope has turned to tears. I had been telling myself that all my symptoms were signs of pg. how stupid!
My ep was in July this year with rt tube removed. I turn 35 in a few weeks and feel now like our chance is slipping away. My mind is full of what ifs and fear.
I had been charting cm/ temping but no opk’s as yet. I guess I just need to write these words and maybe hear from anyone who feels the same or who’s 35 and conceived naturally post ep. Thanks for listening. I find this space and you ladies very helpful.
Oh, I think we all feel the same. I was convinced in September that I was pregnant. My af was even 6 days late, but nope. Not pregnant. I thought this month, too. Nope. Since my mmc last year, PMS has become very similar to early pregnancy signs. So, I can empathize with you. I turned 39 this month, so I also really get the thoughts of chances slipping away. I’m sorry this wasn’t your month. I hope next month is your month. Hugs.
Thank you LilyKedd, it helps to hear your thoughts and to know I’m not alone. since my ep,pms has intensified a little too or maybe I just focus more on it, not sure. Had zero energy for work today. Hope u get good news soon too and thanks for taking the time to respond. Hugs to u
I could have written this post. I am also 34 and feeling the same as you. I really hope good things happen for you soon…
It’s really good to hear from you and that you can understand how it all feels. I’m sorry to read about your recent loss. I hope you find comfort here amongst us all. I aim to put it all out of my mind this month, few weddings/Xmas etc…I’d love to be relaxed about the whole ttc thing. I hope you are doing ok and looking after yourself. Thanks again for replying to my post xx
I had an ectopic 4 weeks ago - I am nearly 37. I was really upset after the op about not being able to conceive now due to tube being removed & my age, but all the consultants I spoke to (& there were about 5 - there seemed to be a different one on every time I looked!) said this age is not old these days… and that lots of people have babies later & I really shouldn’t worry about that. I am trying to reassure myself as much as you here - but just to let you know what they all said that and that I understand how horrible this is when you feel time is slipping away! Hoping they’re right & that this isn’t so old ‘these days’!? Best of luck in ttc again x
Dear user123, thank you for your positive thoughts in November-sorry I haven’t replied until now. Im sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you’re recovering well.
It’s good news to hear that all of your consultants feel that mid-late thirties is normal and possible for conception now. Reading online is scary sometimes but i find it difficult to avoid.
I’m in the ttw now and full of hope. Used opk for first time so who knows. Well wishes and hugs to you on your journey and thanks again for getting in touch. L xx
I had my op to remove my ectopic pregnancy 3 years ago today at 32 nearly 33. I was absolutely devastated as I had previous complications when I had my first baby at 23 which left me with only 1 tube and ovary. They were going to just remove my tube but because I was desperate for another baby they managed to leave it but said I might have to have ivf. To cut a long story short I got pregnant naturally 5 months later. When my baby was 6months old I fell pregnant again at 34 and now have a beautiful little girl and baby boy. It was such an awful time and I never imagined after all the heartache I could be so lucky. Please stay positive xxx