Hi, thought I would see about starting a thread, it’s been really quiet on here so not sure if there are many around. I’ve waited till now because I think everyone should have had their nerve wrecking 12 weeks scans and before…
Anyway it would be good to find out and get to know others who may be going through the same.
I’m currently 16 weeks, and fingers crossed all going well.
My Past history is of EP in April 2011 (after ttc for well over a year), Conceived my DS 8 months later. Started ttc again in August 2013 but had 2 miscarriages, one at 5 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then fell pregnant with this one. It’s amazing how quickly I was falling pregnant this time, felt like it took forever before my son and EP.
I hope everyone else is doing well with their pregnancies, it would be good to hear from you.
Hey hinder, how are you? Of course I remember you, still remember the times we spent on the ttc boards! How’s life treating you, can’t believe our little ones are getting closer to turning two now!xx
I know it is amazing how quickly and fast time goes. I am also expecting again due the end of September. My daughter turns 2 in august. It really is crazy after struggling to conceive before my ectopic for over a year. This time i fell pregnant in one week i wish i had known this back then when it felt like a hopeless situation. How is your pregnancy going?
Wow hinder congratulations!!! I am so pleased for you! You must of had your 20 week scan by now… Do you know what your having? How exciting! What is your due date. Wow we will have the same gap between kids! Just over two years. How are you feeling this time? Be good to share this with someone,
I know what you mean about falling pregnant, took forever the first time, and then it was ectopic! Then a good 8 months for the second. I don’t know how much you have read else where on the site but I have had two miscarriages before this pregnancy, and each one including this one happened first time of trying… Crazy! If only I could have told myself back then it would have been fine, the amount I used to worry… Going to have to be careful after this… My dream was always two children.
Be good to hear how the pregnancy is going for you.xx
Charley, I really feel for you, I can instantly remember and feel how it was back then before I had my son. The worry and stress, not being ever sure if my dreams would come true. To try and help you I will answer the questions as best as I can (even though you were asking hinder, we have similar stories - although she may answer the questions differently)
I had an EP after nearly two years, there is no reason for my EP, I was “unlucky”. I have not had an std or any reason to have one, just one of those things I was told. I was treated with mtx (2x) and after however months got the all clear with a HSG. I started ttc straight away after… It was my focus, obsession maybe looking back now. I went to acupunture and learnt everything there is to know about ovulation and conceiving, and at the same time started going through fertility clinics (knowing how long it can take). We finally got an appointment with a specialist, where he was going to prescribe use clomid, and in 6 months would get ivf. This felt like such a relief that I wasn’t on my own and would get help. My dh and I though we would ttc one more month normally then would use the clomid. Without the stress it just happened…I was shocked.
I believe to begin with I was so stressed with ttc didn’t happen. When I relaxed i learnt it could happen really easily for me. When I tried to concieve again for my second I did have 2 miscarriages before this pregnancy but each pregnancy happened with such ease these times. Whether it was because I have had a child, that my body was kicked in to what it was meant to do, or whether I learnt not to stress I couldn’t tell you…
but I can tell you this, there is not a day that goes by that I am not grateful, I feel truely blessed, as I do feel I could have had a very different outcome.
I wish you all the best with your journey, and hope you get your happy outcome.xx
I am sure you are grateful it just hurts to see people who do not deserve or hurt their children yet have them so easily.
Thanks so much for the response and for you comment on the site even now.
I am having to go for a meth injection today as even though op hormone not coming down. Hope this ok as it doesn’t sound pleasant.
When you say you relaxed what do you mean? Ie did you not have. Sex at key times etc.
did your age have an impact?
So sorry to hear of miscarriages also Was there a reason for miscarriages ?
What is an hsg and how did they give you all clear ? Did they see No damage to tubes?
The time in between and the it going wrong each time makes it more painful as I have no confidence it is going to happen at all or soon and even if does is all going to be ok.
It’s so good to be able to communicate with people who know what it’s like. Just hope like you it all works out in end but my age of nearly. 38 makes me nervous and fact taking meth now is going to mean a further delay for ttc.
Oh charley, poor you, a mtx on top of op, I hope your coping ok. Try and give your self some time out, it must be tough. I hope you get your levels back to zero soon, so that you can look forward. Big hugs.
Yes I have to agree, I get so angry when I hear people mistreat children, any newspaper articles concerning that I can not read, I get too upset. My sister in law is doing a fantastic thing and is going through the adoption procedure ATM, hoping to be completed next month! I think she is doing a fantastic thing
To answer your questions, I relaxed by not being so focused on ttc, yes we still ttc at the right times, but because I was going to be getting help the next month I wasn’t obsessed… I never thought It was going to happen, I truely thought I would need extra help.
Regarding miscarriages, I don’t know why it happened, one was at 5 weeks the second at 10. I know the second got to the right place due to scans, but I was told it most likely chromosomal, and just very unlucky for it to happen twice.
A HSG is a procedure they inject dye into your cervix, they can record the flow via X-ray in your tubes to see if they are patent (open) or blocked. It doesn’t tell you the quality of the tubes, only that they are open. The all clear I spoke about was just waiting the 3 months and getting told my tubes were open.
I wish you all the best with the recovery, and hope you get your outcome. If there are any other questions please ask. Take care.xx
Thanks so much mimis for your kind words and sharing your experiences.
I’ve had two hsgs then they call them something diff where I go and both times found tubes to be patent. So had done one before first ectopic and one before this one.
Had meth injection yesterday and have to go back to get levels checked.
That’s great what your relative is doing and maybe I should accept that might be me only option.
Hi not sure if this thread will still be going but I wanted to let you all know that I now have a very beautiful baby boy he was born at the end of September and I am so in love. Hope you are all well