After my eptopic

Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy
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Hiya

Not sure if anyone could help

I had my eptopic in January , I had been TTC for 4 months before I fell but unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be , I had my left tube removed so I didn’t have the medication side of things to resolve it, it’s nearly 2 months and I havnt had a period yet ? is that normal? my hormones are literally everywhere

I find myself getting emotional every day on and off for no reason , getting ALOT of mood swings and anger outbursts, I thought it was just my period on its way but yet still nothing…

Something is giving me hope to think maybe I’m pregnant again ? Although I took a test and was negative

So I really have no idea why I’m feeling like this :frowning:

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Also I do have polystic ovaries as well which doesn’t help my chances of falling pregnant again any time soon which hurts just as much as I feel like I have even less hope of ever being a mum :frowning:

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Dear Abilouise,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal and understandable.

After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.

Many women also experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.

Whilst your feelings are completely normal at this stage of recovery, if the bad days start to outweigh the good, we at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.

In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.

The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/

I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame. Please be kind to yourself and I send you gentle hugs.

Sending much love and warm hugs,

Karen x

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Hi Abilouise,

My first period arrived 10.5 weeks after surgery. Then the next was 5 weeks after that. My periods before surgery were usually exactly every 4 weeks to the day so it’s a bit odd having to wait. I just keep reminding myself my body has been through a lot and this could be my new normal.

Charlotte xx

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Thank you guys

I had a couple spots on Monday and it disappears again , but I took a test a few days ago ti was negative so I think my body is just very confused on what it wants to do atm!

I appreciate all your support x

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Hiya

Little reminder on what actually happened with my ectopic in jan

I fell pregnant in January but ended up being ectopic pregnancy and had to have my left tube removed :frowning:

I have PCOS aswell as now only 1 tube

I haven’t had a period since the breakthrough bleed ! I done an ovulation test and got my smiley face Sunday / Monday , but now I’m getting period like cramps do you think it could be a sign I’m pregnant or is it to early for implantation and could very well be my period ? Last time I didn’t know I was pregnant as I was actually bleeding the whole time ! So wasn’t until I had a dream

I was pregnant I done the test and went to the Docters to say I had a positive test with bleeding for weeks that they then scanned there and then and rushed me into surgery ! So I honestly I’m so confused !!!

I really felt so hopefully Monday when I finally got a positive ovulation test and now think that I’m never going to get the chance to be a mum :frowning:

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Hi I found out I was pregnant in January but found out it was ectopic so now I’m down a tube. I’m 8 weeks post ectopic and I had my first period in March 16th but my second period hasn’t started yet is that normal?

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Sorry to hear about your loss !! I also had mine in January too! and lost and tube , I am only NOW having my first period since the ectopic and it’s been going on for 10 days ( was spotting for nearly a week) now it’s starting to pick up the rythem , I think the cycles will be messed up for a good few months I wouldn’t worry to much About them not being regular this soon after I guess it will take a while for the body to readjust and get back to normality ?!

Xxxx