Hi. I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy a year ago. It was totally unexpected as I never knew I was pregnant and went into hospital with suspected appendicitis. Now a year down the line I am feeling very low. It’s getting me down that I have nothing to show. No scans nothing just scars. It was all over I’m a blur in and out in 1 day. Not much information given to me after it. And I guess that’s what on my mind. Why did it happen? I just thought I was having a bad period? I feel worse now than when it happened. Has anyone else had these feelings? How can I stop feeling guilty? My family and friends are very supportive but I don’t know what to say to them. It’s hard. Looking for a bit of advice and support from people who have been through the same. Thank you xx
I’m sorry to hear of your experience. There is no real answer to why it happens. I think we can all identify with how you are feeling, and have gone through similar thoughts. It’s tough, especially if you are still trying to conceive, but even if not.
all the advice I can really give is to try to live your life and enjoy every day. There is a lot of good out there. I know it really helped me to try to focus on the happiness when I was having my moments after my ectopic. It didn’t always work and I still had some really low days, but it did help to try to focus my thoughts. I also found talking to friends who had experienced losses helped, even though they hadn’t had ectopics. I spoke to a counsellor, too, and that helped.
I hope that in another year, you will be looking back on some happiness.
Thank you for your reply. I realised this got posted in the wrong section sorry. Thank you for the helpful advice. I am booked in at the doctors to talk to someone about it all. Just a long wait. Xx