A letter to you x

19/05/24

two little solid lines

from the start your strength was clear

one test, two, and then a third..

our baby was really here

we laughed and cried and panicked

a baby just like that!

we laughed, we cried, we panicked

but we chose family

  • a team, a pact

an instinct. immeasurable, immediate

to protect you with our lives

our perfect missing puzzle piece

pure sunshine,

our clear blue sky

suddenly it all made sense

past qualms immediately worthless

a love solidified in your tiny soul

  • a poetic sense of purpose

oh to have gotten to know you

your smile, your laugh, your joy

oh to have gotten to feel your kick

sweet baby girl or baby boy

to have gotten to hold you tight, just once

to feel you in my arms

to have gotten to watch you grow and grow

to guide you, palm in palm

but they said we couldn’t save you

  • we tried, we really tried

they said they couldn’t save you

that the cruel hands of fait were tied

fore you’d gotten lost along the way

and made yourself at home

snug and growing healthily

but in a place that wasn’t known

a mother with an empty womb

my baby’s heartbeat still inside

‘til the doctors said it was time to act

to ‘save me’, but for you to die

our final night together - waiting

just a baby and a mum

i told you all about my life, and all the great things your dad has done

I told you that I loved you

how your sir name would be spelt

i told you we all loved you

and just how heartbroken we felt

and though the waiting almost killed me

all I thought about was you

that my baby was still healthy

  • just a little lost, astray, confused

the waiting nearly killed me

but hearing ‘surgery’ felt worse

no chance of happy endings left

just a cruel ectopic curse

the beeps and lights didn’t phase us that night

too busy planning our goodbyes

I told you all about me and your dad,

whispered you soft slow lullabies

no more rushing round, no panicking

just a mothers heart in two

but of all the nights we shared together,

somehow my favourite was here with you

they say it’s 1 in 50

to see your heartbeat rarer still

that in time things will feel easier

but I fear they never will

they say next time it’s different

but the risk of horror still remains

to lose another lifetime

a tube lost in surgery, again

they say it’s 1 in 50

how could they have chosen you??

my sweet baby girl or baby boy

just one week of knowing you

my heart has been torn open

a space nothing but you could fill

and although you weren’t here very long

  • I miss you,
  • I always will.

sweetheart, I would truly give my life

just to feel you close again

to rub my tummy where you laid

In hopes you’d feel my hand

my darling I would give my life

  • just to have you back

to wake up with the morning sun

  • our family intact

You see, we loved you from the get go

fears squashed by all our joy

we loved you from the get go

sweet baby girl or baby boy

we loved you from the get go

every second of the way

we loved you from the get go

and I miss you every single day

Dear rvw,
Such a beautiful poem dedicated to your baby. Your heartfelt words certainly echo how I felt. Thank you so much for sharing.
Sending much love,
Karen x

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