I am 5wks today & am so petrified, I was feeling really positive but today all I am feeling is fear & am so emotional. I just can’t bare the thought of another ep. I hope to god everything is ok. I should hear from the midwife today about my scan. I hope everything is ok.
Whispered congratulations! We understand that fear of getting your hopes up and guilt for not being as excited as you feel you should be so well. Sadly, when we have been through an ectopic pregnancy it is totally normal to be focussed on ‘oh my gawd, it better be in the right place’ and ‘what will I do if I lose my other tube’ and the pressure of waiting for the scan is beyond words.
The important thing is we get you a scan sorted as soon as possible, ideally SIX WEEKS. It is hard to see anything before this date and, hopefully, there would be a heartbeat at this time (although don’t be alarmed if not, it is right on the cusp of being too early and we don’t all ovulate the same point in our menstrual cycle). If your midwife offers a ‘rubbish’ date, don’t hesitate to gently and politely push back that six weeks is best practice and that you want this scan to be early because if it was another ectopic pregnancy you need it to be diagnosed early enough so you can have treatment by methotrexate and preserve your fertility (fingers crossed it won’t be but it is a way of applying the pressure for them to give you the scan).
Thank you so much for your kind reply ep host 13, I am very anxious as I only have one tube left. I have a deep down gut feeling that it is going to be ok this time (but it may be wishful thinking), I just hope I am right this time, I just keep praying that it will be ok. I would do anything for it to be ok this time, the thought of going through all that heart ache again is unbearable.
Thank you again for replying so quickly, and for your support xx
Lou, I’m keeping my fingers, toes and everything crossed for you that everything will be fine. The fact your gut instinct is telling you it will be ok is a really good sign, as you know your own body more than anyone else and your much more in tune with it after an ectopic.
Thank you so much Sarah, its just awful not knowing what is going on in my body. I am constantly checking in the toilet (sorry if tmi!). I don’t feel as positive as I did this morning, but keeping everything crossed.
Hi Lou, I totally understand how nervous you must be feeling. You’re bound to be worried and nervous but remember that it is more likely that the baby will be in the right place than not. It isn’t long now to wait til the scan. Try to keep your mind off it if you can (much easier said than done, I know). I’m sure it’ll be fine xxx
Thank you Sarah, I am going to try to keep calm and try and take my mind off things this weekend, and just keep hoping for the best, it is out of my hands now, so just have to hope and pray everything is in the right place. Thank you for your support. I hope all is well with you xxxxxxxxxx
Just an update on my scan, the baby is in the right place & we saw the heart beat We are so over the moon but understand it is still early days. Best of luck & love to everyone xxxxxxxxx
Lou, that is wonderful news. Congratulations! You must be so happy and relieved. I hope you can feel more relaxed now and enjoy your pregnancy. What a lovely early Christmas present this is!
I hope you don’t mind me asking, but in an earlier post you said your tube was repaired. Does this mean you had a salpingostomy? The reason I ask is because this is what I had.
Thank you so much, I am over the moon, it is also my birthday next Sunday so the best present I could possibly wish for, I know it is still early days though but I am positive.
Yes I had a salpingostomy in August 2012, my right tube removed and my left tube was repaired, apparently it was stuck down and full of adhessions, the surgeon told me I would have a 70% chance of a natural pregnancy, so hang on in there. When did you have your ep? I wish you so much luck Sarah, dont give up, keep trying, I am sending so much baby dust your way xxxxxxxxxxx