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In 2015 I woke up one morning in horrific pain, i had no idea I was pregnant after having a bleed the week before i thought was a period, I was taken to A&E to be told I was having an ectopic pregnancy, was taken straight to theatre and when all was over the consultant used the words “advanced ectopic” and that due to the health of the tube the pregnancy wasn’t in ( which I believe is unhealthy due to contracting an STD back when I was 16 ) he didn’t remove the tube and managed to get the pregnancy out without removal of tube so I have both tubes.

I went to have a dye test through my tubes which indicated the ectopic tube was open and working but the other one was open but closed at the ovary side so it was blocked at that side by scarring, its been 5 years this month and I have never ever conceived since still with the same partner who I conceived with 5 years ago, I do have a 8 year old little boy from a previous relationship aswell so I know the unhealthy tube didnt cause me issues with him, I have had tests which shows i so ovulate but my cycles are always anywhere between 30-40 days, so although not entirely irregular they are not on certain dates like other women, I have been suffering with mental health issues ever since, and I feel like I’m never going to have my baby with my partner and it breaks my heart, I just wondered what was the longest time it took for others to conceive

Hi Chaelarose1,

I am so sorry to hear of all you have been through. Ectopic pregnancy and loss is both a physical and emotional trauma, and it is not uncommon to have emotions and questions months and years after. I’m not medically qualified and am unable to comment on your specific situation, but always encourage people to follow up with questions to their medical providers on options for ttc.

I know how hard and how lingering these feelings can be. It is so natural to grieve for what might have been, and seeing other babies is a stark reminder of what we have lost. Journaling and writing was a key piece in my recovery, but the Trust also recommends talking therapies as an important tool for our healing.

If you are interested in exploring counselling, we suggest that you ask for a referral by your GP or use a practitioner who has undertaken recognised training and is registered with the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy. It is also a good idea to look for someone who has an interest in the area of women’s health or fertility problems. The charity MIND also can provide counselling with trained practitioners locally at affordable prices. Counselling charges are means-tested (you pay what you can afford) and so you may receive counselling support for a nominal fee or even for free.

Please know we are with you and we are here for you for as long as you need. Sending extra warm hugs and love to you.

With good wishes,

Michele

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

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