I had an ectopic 4 months ago where it ruptured and my left tube was removed. It’s taken me months to feel emotionally strong again. I’ve just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant and I’m so worried. My husband is excited but I feel like I might jinx it by being excited as I was naive about how wrong a pregnancy can go!
I’m booked in for my early scan in just over 2 weeks and that seems ages away. My husband says I can be excited as nothing has gone wrong yet and the odds are in my favour but it’s so hard to do. I feel some little twinges on the side my tube was removed and I’m worried it could be another ectopic in the scar tissue, is this just really paranoid? My ectopic last time happened about this time of 4.5 weeks pregnant. The pain when it ruptured went from painful to really extreme in a few hours. My husband says the worry won’t help and I know that.
Can anyone help calm me down? Last time I told my family and a few friends I was pregnant as I knew really early on and I’m rubbish with secrets. I’ve got a son who is nearly 3 and it was a good pregnancy so I thought the second time would be the same. This time I don’t want to tell anyone in case I jinx it even though I know that’s stupid. Also I read another post on here where the woman said here body wasn’t ready and she ended up with a miscarriage. That’s worrying me it’s too soon but I’m nearly 37 and a bit worried time is ticking away.
Did anyone else have twinges this early on and still have a successful pregnancy? How can I be more positive when I’m so scared about what could happen? Any advice would be great. I don’t know who to talk to as I haven’t told anyone yet as they will tell me not to worry but I need to hear from someone who has been through this, cheers, xxxx
Whispered congrats to you! It’s hard not to be freaked out. I think you’ll find we all are, especially until we find out that it is in the right spot. I had twinges pretty well right away. I had them all over the place, in the side where my tube was removed, the good side, and in the center. It can be just scar tissue with your uterus now growing.
However, do make sure that if you have some pains that are significant that you get them checked out, just in case. Your husband is right that chances are it is in the right spot.
I hope this two weeks before your scan goes quickly, and that you get great news!
I feel exactly the same. Found out today. Booked in for bloods next week and scan 2 weeks today so have done all I can. And I’ve got lots of symptoms: nausea, tender breasts, exhausted, increased appetite plus a few others, but I seem to be focusing on the twinges and convince myself something is wrong.
I hope all goes to plan for us both. I feel like I’m getting to know the staff in epau better than I want to!
Hi I had ectopic last April where I had to av one tube removed I’ve just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant and I’m booked in for scan Tuesday I’m so afraid my husband says last time I was really pale and didn’t have the energy to get off the sofa. This time I’m tired but I’m doing normal things and I’ve got colour in my cheeks so I’m praying that this time everything is in the rite place. I feel that after Tuesday I will know but then if all OK I will be worried bout miscarriage . Do not worry u are not alone we women need to stay strong
Wow ladies, thanks for the support and advice. I’m so glad I’m not alone! I feel more reassured now. Whispered congratulations to you too. I really hope we are all successful. Fingers crossed for you all. Would be great to hear how you all get on. Speak soon xxx
Hi, also in a similar situation. Suffered ruptured ectopic in December and also had my left tube removed. Found out last week that I’m pregnant and I’m not 4 weeks 3 days which is exactly the day I started bleeding with ectopic.
I also have been having loads of twinges, like period type pains all over id say at first they were in the tubeless side now I think I notice them more on my good side.
I didn’t get any of these pains during my ectopic so sort of convincing myself they’re normal.
My partner said we can’t change what will happen so try to carry on as normal as possible and the scan will come soon enough- still doesn’t stop the worrying!
I started bleeding at 4 weeks and 3 days last time, 2 days past that now so I feel a bit more positive- the waiting is rubbish, but every time you go to the toilet and have no bleeding is a step closer to good news … That’s what I keep telling myself X
I’m past the time I had my ectopic too now which is good. I’m still convinced that every time I go to the toilet too there might be blood but only 12 days till my scan. My pains are definitely more when my thinking about ectopic but it’s hard not to stress. Fingers crossed xxx
It is totally hard not to stress, I feel like waiting for my scan has been the longest time in my whole life!!
The girl who sits opposite me at work announced she’s 7 weeks pregnant today and although I was happy for her it’s made me feel really sad that I can’t be excited for myself!
I wish there was like a pregnancy test that could tell you, pregnant and in the right place x
One step in the right direction. My hcg levels have doubled so would suggest it’s not ectopic. Still reluctant to get too excited until the scan next Friday but I’m a little more relaxed. Hope everyone else’s weeks have gone well x
I went for my scan today and it was all good! I’m so relieved but still anxious that we need to get to 12 weeks before I tell people. I was so scared that I didn’t want the screen on in case it was bad but they turned it on once they were sure it was in the right place. It had a little heart beat too which I was surprised about. I’m just under 7 weeks. The twinges I’ve had make me feel better that things are changing to look after my baby and not to be ectopic! Still nervous but calming down. I feel a bit numb as there could still be complications but as good as it can be. I’m surprised how quick it all was, other scans have taken a bit longer to see everything but this was all done in about 2 minster. Hopefully anyone waiting for their early scan is lucky too, Sylvia xxx
That’s great news. I went last fri and it’s not ectopic but got another 2 weeks in limbo coz they could only see the sac. So it was either too early (which is possible because I have irregular cycles ) or its a blighted ovum. Trying to stay positive but everything’s going wrong this week. My son is poorly so I’m being checked for my immunity in case it is rubella or slapped cheek syndrome… Both of which are not good in early pregnancy. On top of that we’ve had our car written off. I’m flippin exhausted!
