4 weeks pregnant and fearing the worst!

Hello - I’m sure tons of people experience this paranoia but after an ectopic and tube removal in Feb I’m convinced this is another ectopic on the other side. I can barely think straight let alone work because all I can do is sit and worry and try to notice what’s happening. How do you get through this wait?? I have a scan booked with EPU but not for 2 weeks. Tempted to get a private scan before then if blood HCG is high enough.

Advice welcome!

:pray: Alex

Dear Alex,

Whispered congratulations on your pregnancy,

After an ectopic pregnancy, finding we are pregnant again can be a mix of emotions and I can completely understand your feeling nervous. It is perfectly normal to feel scared after the ordeal you have endured. I also felt twinges and aches after my ectopic pregnancy, particularly when I next felt pregnant. My mind started racing and I was only really able to relax to some degree after my early scan. It is a nerve-wracking time and you have a friend here who understands how you are feeling.

I wish I had tips on how to pass the time. Be gentle with yourself, keep your mind occupied, reading, watching box sets etc.

Sending much and positive thoughts,

Karen x

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How did you get on, Alex? I’m in the same position now. Just got a positive test today and EPU called me in for a scan but haven’t been able to see anything in my uterus or tubes,presumably because it’s too early but also worried because I have some of the symptoms I had with my first ectopic and have ovulated from my ectopic side (medical mgt.). Trying to stay positive but it is worrying!

Hi Laura! Lots of people say they don’t see anything on u/s initially. It’s good they’re taking care of you but it is so impossible to put it out of your mind isn’t it?! I still haven’t had scan but having a couple of private blood tests so I can at least get an idea from those of when I might see something. I keep feeling twinges too but - weirdly- also on my right side where I had the tube removed so I know my mind is tricking me! I do get them on left and I know I ovulated that side so I’m really desperate for the scan. Will keep you posted and keep fingers crossed for you. :blush:

How did you go Alex?

I was in a similar position recently and I was soooo anxious waiting to find out - and alternated between thinking everything was okay (no bleeding etc. unlike the ectopic, doubling hCG) and panicking (sharp pains on ectopic side).

The earliest I could get a scan was 5+4 but then I was able to move it to 5+2 which I knew was so early it could have been inconclusive and more stressful but I was sick of waiting anxiously each day…they saw a gestational sac which technically can’t rule out ectopic, but it was pretty good, and when I had another scan later it saw much more and no evidence of ectopic.

I hope you had a similar experience!

I really had to demand early scans - doctors and receptionists kept trying to fob me off to 7 weeks or more, saying “you can see more then” blah blah as if I wanted to see a heartbeat or a baby - no I just wanted to know it wasn’t ectopic! Fortunately my fertility specialist understood the importance even if her staff were confused, so that’s how I got in at 5+2.

It was not ectopic! But i did find it scarier than I thought “only” seeing the sac - no yolk. Went back at 6 weeks - saw a yolk sac but nothing more and I was measuring behind so I’m still really worried but very grateful it’s not ectopic. Another scan this coming Thursday when I really hope to see something more - very nervous! Hope all continues to go well for you!

X alex

That’s great it’s not ectopic yay! I’m sorry you still have some uncertainty though, I hope it turns out well for you. The stories of what is seen or measured on early ultrasounds can be so different. I know what you mean about being grateful it is not ectopic, other things are nerve-wracking but that first hurdle is so stressful.