Three losses this year

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I’m super new to forums and chat groups. But I’ve been holding so much in lately and I’m constantly on the verge of bursting.

So basically, as soon as me and my husband got engaged last year, we decided to start fooling around with the idea of ttc. We weren’t being cautious but we were just kinda going with the flow. So anyway, at the end of January I found out that I was pregnant, two weeks later I was told I was having a miscarriage. It hurt but we got through it. We were being careful for the next few months but as you all know, sometimes birth control doesn’t always work.

So we found out we were pregnant towards the end of April and since I hadn’t had a regular cycle yet we didn’t know how far along we were. I started going in for appointments and they were doing bloodwork every two days. Come to find out that at the very end of May there was no baby in the uterus and the “little” pain I felt a few days prior was my right tube rupturing. So they rush me in for emergency surgery. Afterwards, we were given the pictures and we had a 10 week pregnancy nestled in my tube and told to get some rest. Super disheartened that no one seemed to really care about what had happened to us. My OBGYN just said that these things happen and we don’t know why.

Fast forward to our wedding day Sept. 30th 2017, and guess what, we’re pregnant! We were so scared and excited because the bad tube was gone, right? Well we went on our honeymoon and had our little nugget with us. We came back and I tried to schedule and appointment ASAP with my OB and they said they didn’t need to see me yet. I thought that was a little odd since I had prior complications. They got me in the next week and said that I was having a miscarriage. I was a little upset so I decided to get a second opinion from a new OB and he started sono’s and bloodwork right off the bat. Had me coming in every two days and then we had a sono at 6 weeks and 5 days. Nothing in my uterus. I was hoping that I wasn’t going to hear those words again, but they stung harder than the last time. Terrified, I asked what the next step was and he decided to get me the methotrexate injection and to schedule a D&E the next day.

I went to the hospital to get the injection and I was in so much pain while waiting. After an hour I finally got it and we were heading out the door. We hit a bump on the way out and I honestly felt like I was dying. My entire body hurt, my vision went blurry, and my hearing was significantly worse. They took me to the ER where I waited for two hours without pain medication until they could get me into a room. I went in for another emergency surgery that night.

My new OBGYN saved my left tube and I’ll be going in in a few weeks to get an HSG done to see how that tube is looking and what to do from here. He did say that he found Endometriosis and that it’s been there for a while and he was concerned how the last OB missed it.

I’m not necessarily in need of emotional support, just wondering if anyone has a similar situation and what the outcomes were.

I’m so nervous to find out if that tube is okay and if this will completely effect our future.

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Hi there - This is the first time I have posted about this as well but I have had a very similar experience, albeit not quite so bad. We started TTC autumn last year and I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks in November, which I was very upset about but chalked up to bad luck and tried to see the bright side that at least I could get pregnant. I have subsequently had 2 ectopics this year, one in May diagnosed at 8 weeks (right side) and one diagnosed last week after an early internal scan at 5 1/2 weeks (left side). I have been relatively lucky as the first ectopic resolved naturally doing watch and wait so I didn’t need surgery or methatrexine, although it took 3 months to disperse and was heartbreaking as well as pretty uncomfortable for quite a while. I am pretty numb about the current situation, although pretty sure I have expelled the pregnancy naturally as the pain suddenly stopped and I subsequently passed a mass similar to my miscarriage. I will get this confirmed by blood test and tv ultrasound during my follow up tomorrow, as well as talking to the consultant about what additional testing/preventative measures we can do.

The main worry for me is that there seems to be some damage to both of my tubes and I can’t think what it would be. I have been with my husband for 11 years, we both got tested before I went on the pill so it is unlikely to be chlamydia or the like. I am thinking there might be something like endometriosis and was wondering how your endometriosis was diagnosed?

I am not sure if this will be helpful to you as I haven’t had any real outcomes as yet but I thought I would share as sometimes it is good to know that people have had a similar experience. It sounds like you have a good OB now but if/when you get pregnant again I would insist on getting a tv ultrasound at 5-6 weeks if you can as that is the earliest it will be visible in your tube and they can take action accordingly.

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Hey Sarah!

I’m so sorry to hear all of that. It’s terrifying and I could only imagine how rough it’s been for you and your husband! It sounds like you’re in pretty good hands since everything is naturally going smoothly! Definitely makes you feel better when you have people around you that really know what to do.

As for the endo, I had a laparoscopy with both of my surgeries so my new doctor took a better look around my uterus, remaining tube, ovaries, and pretty much anything around that! But from what I’ve read while trying to better understand the condition is that many woman go a decade or so before it’s ever diagnosed. A lot of people don’t find out until they start ttc.

I’m sure there’s a way to at least determine if that’s a high probability before any incisions are involved!

I hope you’re keeping you’re head up, it does no good if you’re not looking forward! That’s what’s getting me through this. We just have to keep strong and keep fighting.

I’d love to hear how you’re doing in a few months!