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Hi all,

I’ve never used an online forum before however really feel I need to talk to people who have gone through the same as me. Last Thursday I was rushed into hospital with pains and bleeding to be told I had an ectopic pregnancy. I was sent to theatre in a matter of 2 hours as the consultants were concerned of my own health. I’ve had two miscarriages and now an ectopic pregnancy which has resulted in my removal of my Fallopian tube and although I’m only now starting to recover as I have had heavy blood loss and an infection I feel extremely alone with my feelings. My partner and family are doing all they can to support me and it’s still is early days however I feel I need to talk to others to find out if they felt the same? Thank you

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Dear Harpflower,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and losses.

When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.

Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and I will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.

Generally, you should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body’s signals and pain and feeling tired are your body’s signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.

There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.

We will be here for you for as long as you need,

Sending much love,

Karen x

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