Second Ectopic. PLEASE NO MORE!!

I started my ttc journey in Jan 2016 I didn’t really know much in the sense of suppliments, temping, ovulation etc and Jan 2017 I found out I was pregnant and of coarse I was over the moon but sadly that pregnancy ended as an ectopic. I had surgery on 4.2.17 and had my left tube removed.

The Dr told me after that, that I was full of adhesions (scar tissue) which covered my right tube.

I started to do lots of research and started taking things more seriously in regards to my health. I started taking high doses of serrapeptase and on 10.1.18 I had a laparoscopy and had the adhesions removed and a hsg to make sure right tube was open.

All went well, the adhesions were gone and my tube was open and I hoped and prayed that everything would go well the next time.

Thurs 29th Aug 2019 I got my first bfp and after temping daily, serrapeptase, daily suppliments, ovulation tests, vagina steams, pre-seed. I thought to myself OMG I’ve finally done it. But a part of me couldn’t get excited. I went for my first scan at 4.5 weeks with a hcg of 1072 and all I needed was for them to say they see something in my womb but they didn’t. They didnt see anything which is understandable with hcg under 1500. But I just needed that hope. They told me to come back a week later and they took more blood and confirmed that my hcg has tripled in 48hrs to 3271so I hung on to that fact that my hcg is going up and although i was getting a little light spotting I was in no pain. The spotting went from dark blood to fresh then back to dark.

On Tues 10th Sept 19 they confirmed that it was another ectopic pregnancy on my right side and that I had ovulated from my right side. Because my hcg was so high I couldn’t get the methotrexate and would need surgery.

I’m devastated… cos I’ve tried so hard to make sure I’m healthy and to track my fertility and this time I really thought it would have all been ok.

I had surgery later that same evening and I cried my eyes out begging the surgeon to save my last tube if he could.

On weds 11 Sept 19 the Dr came around and told me that thankfully they were able to save my right tube and he said I could try again or go straight to IVF.

He said there was no inflammation when he went in and adhesions had not come back.

I am so thankful that I get another chance at trying again naturally but I’m absolutely terrified my right tube is not strong enough and ends in a 3rd ectopic. But IVF isn’t really an option.

I know that things will get easier over time and I’m trying not to fall into depression over this.

I just hope that I can carry a child to full term soon and I’m trying so hard to stay positive x

Dear Kamee,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses. You have been through a huge amount in such a short space of time and it is very normal to feel overwhelmed. From your words, I can imagine how frightening the experience must have been and I am sorry you have had to go though this.

Coming to terms with what has happened will take time. You are still in the early days of recovery and are physically and emotionally needing to heal.

You will need space to process what has happened and it can feel isolating. With us here at the Trust, we have been through similar experiences and I can understand how lonely it feels. You have a friend here and please do continue to lean on us for as long as you need.

It is normal to feel anxious about the future. We generally feel a mix of emotions from wanting to try again to being petrified of what may lie ahead. We never forget, but we learn to accept what happened. It is a slow process that might be weeks or months ahead.

In time, we can get to a place where we feel comfortable trying again. When this is, is individual for each person. There is no timeframe for recovery, take each day as it comes.

There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally and it is completely normal to feel anxious about the future. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.

Above all, be kind to yourself. Allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally. We will be here for you for as long as you need.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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Thank you Karen x

I am just trying to take one day at a time and focus on getting my health in 100% order.

I do want to try again and hope and pray that things work out for me