Scared its going to happen again😔

Preparing For Your Next Pregnancy
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Hi everyone

Not posted before, but just want to say you’re all absolutely amazing:purple_heart:

I had my first ectopic back in January this year. I had my right tube removed. Me and my partner thought we were ready to try again, but im not sure now its happened as Ive just discovered im pregnant. Im only around 4w5d and Im absolutely terrified and scared:pensive:

Anyone else feeling this way? Just want to be able to enjoy it and not feel like i do. Ive done nothing but cry thinking its going to go the same way:pensive:please tell me im not insane! I just feel like im going to let my partner down all over again:pensive:

Thabk you for reading:purple_heart:

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Dear Fiesta,

Whispered congratulations on your pregnancy,

Honestly, I think your feelings are shared by everyone who has experienced ectopic pregnancy. I could have written this post myself.

After an ectopic pregnancy, finding we are pregnant again can be a mix of emotions and I can completely understand your feeling nervous. It is perfectly normal to feel scared after the ordeal you have endured. When I next found out I was pregnant, my mind started racing and I was only really able to relax to some degree after my early scan. It is a nerve-wracking time and you have friends here who understand how you are feeling.

We would advise booking for an early pregnancy scan. Speaking from UK medical practice and standards, usually doctors carry out an internal transvaginal scan at around six weeks with subsequent pregnancies after an ectopic. This is because there is a reasonable chance of seeing an embryo around this six week mark. We advise contacting your local EPU, reminding them of your ectopic pregnancy and booking an appointment. If you are unable to self refer, contact your GP who will be able to do this for you.

I cannot stress enough that you are not letting anyone down, nothing is your fault. I wish I could make the time go faster until your scan, all I can advise is try to keep your mind busy, books, box sets, going out for gentle walks.

We are all here for you, Sending gentle hugs and positive thoughts,

Much love,

Karen x

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Hi Karen

Many thanks for your reply. Im glad im not alone feeling like this.

I just keep looking out for every twinge and every pain etc. Constantly going to the toilet thinking somethings going to happen:pensive:

My gp is ringing me back today so fingers crossed they can refer me for an early scan!

Im trying to keep busy with work etc but i have morning sickness already and its taking its toll on me:woman_facepalming:t2: Im a carer in the community so its very hard lol!

Many thanks for taking the time to reply:purple_heart:

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How did you go? I hope you are ok and got an early scan

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I’d love to know how it went xx