I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant on18/03/21. Experienced bleeding and severe pain on 21/03/21 took a trip to A&E they couldn’t find anything wrong, was given an appointment for 2 days later, scanned and bloods done was told that they didn’t know what was wrong but not to be hopeful. Went back again 2 days later and on my third internal scan of the day they found my pregnancy hiding in my left Fallopian tube. 24 hours later I was getting my methotrexate injection. Which slowly started working however 4 weeks later after weekly bloods and internal scans, I ruptured and had emergency surgery to remove my left Fallopian tube. Ever since I just feel so sad, and robbed. I sometimes feel resentment towards certain situations not even pregnancy related. Will this ever go away?
Dear March_21,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. To have methotrexate and then still have to have surgery 4 weeks later must be so draining handful so sorry you have had to go through all of this.
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
Experiencing surgery for ectopic pregnancy after methotrexate is a huge ordeal and you are in the early stages of recovery. Your body needs time to heal from your surgery which is in itself a gruelling task.
You should take it very easily for about six weeks after surgery. Your body will be using its energies to heal internally. It is normal to feel physically and emotionally exhausted during this time and please do be kind to yourself. Recovery can take time and some days will be better than others, one day you maybe ok and the next you maybe in discomfort or more emotional. This is perfectly usual and the healing process will go back and forth in this way for however long you need. It is important to listen to your body’s signals and pain and feeling tired are your body’s signs to tell you to rest. We suggest keeping a healthy balanced diet, drinking lots of water and resting. Once your wounds have healed, very gentle exercise such as a short walk can help, but please do take this slowly.
In time we can get to a place where we feel more settled however when this is is individual for us all. Please be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
We will be here for as long as you need,
Sending much love,
Karen x
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