I’m a month away from my due date and I have quickly unravelled. I was doing what I thought was really well and then the last week I have just crumbled. I even left work on Friday. Something I never do. I’m breaking down left right and centre and I can’t believe I’m back here.
My parents are arriving next month (due date) and I don’t want them to see me like this. I don’t want to worry them.
Dear marmoannie,
I am so sorry to hear that you feel that you are going backwards. Seven years after my ectopic pregnancy and I still feel very sad on anniversary dates. It can be especially difficult as these dates are often a stark reminder of what could have been. Your feelings are completely normal and if you feel able, I would advise opening up to your family.
If these feelings continue however, there are a few avenues you could explore.
After a frightening ordeal like ectopic pregnancy, some women find that they suffer from Post Traumatic Stress and symptoms can include anxiety and not being able to focus on everyday things like work. There are a number of avenues that you could look into to get the help that you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
We are all here for you too, for as long as you need,
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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