I experienced an ectopic back in November and had emergency surgery followed by a blood transfusion due to the amount of blood I had lost before surgery. I would of been coming up to my due date in the next 6 weeks and I feel like am really now starting to struggle.
Constant thinking what if or what should have been. I also work in childcare which doesn’t help as I am aways around children.
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Dear Amy,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
Due dates and anniversaries can be really overwhelming. Please take the time you need right now and be kind to yourself. Are there any pressures at work or home that can be taken off you for a little while.
If you are struggling, we are here for you if you feel you want to open up a little more about how you feel. We at the Trust, believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
Please do bear in mind, that these feelings are completely normal during these times, but if the down days start to outweigh the good, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling.
We have information on our website about finding counselling services and we have more information here: http://www.ectopic.org.uk/patients/emotional-impact/
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too and I struggled with my emotions for years until I contacted the Trust. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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