Hi everyone I am 35 years old and recently married in August 2013. We started ttc straight away and I had a positive pregnancy test in November 2013. I started spotting with cramps at 7 weeks, diagnosed in the ER with an ectopic that was successfully treated with Methotrexate at 8 weeks so I kept both my tubes. A few weeks ago April 2014 after our first month of ttc I fell pregnant again only to start spotting at 4.5 weeks and then full on bleeding and cramping a few days later. I finally went to the ER a few days later to be sure it wasn’t an ectopic even though all my preg symptoms had faded. They found my hcg levels to be only 5. No u/s was done and the ER doc said it’s most likely just a regular miscarriage.
I feel relieved that I didnt need the methotrexate treatment but I’m worried what if that miscarriage was an ectopic that passed on its own. I don’t have a family doctor so I’m trying to figure out a lot of my questions through the internet. We’re going to start ttc after my next period and am trying to think positive but have that thought “what if” there’s something wrong with me. I’m a little scared of what’s coming next. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
I am sorry to hear your story, I don’t blame you for feeling worried about the future. I have experienced both too, I was ttc for a over a year or so before I convieved my EP in April 2011 I was also treated with mtx, took 8 months after that to concieve my DS which I am blessed to have. I also got married in August 2013 and my husband and I thought we would try for number 2 as it hadn’t happened that quickly the first time.
Amazingly we Concieved first month, and was unknowingly pregnant at the wedding but I miscarried it at 5 weeks like you. We tried straight after (didn’t wait for a period) and I fell pregnant again, but had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. We then decided to wait a month to have my period and take a rest, then we feel pregnant again first time and now I am 14 weeks.
Like you every pregnancy I worry about EP, I have early scans and my EPU are fantastic, very supportive. But after the miscarriages, It added another worry as well. They say you can Be just unlucky to have a miscarriage, and I was told I was just very unlucky to have two miscarriages. 25% of a pregnancy miscarrying when it is Concieved! that obviously goes down the futher along you go, after 12 weeks is down to 1%.
My advice is just relax, have fun and try and take it easy (difficult I know). The odds are on your side that you will have the right embryo in the right place with the right number of cromozones.
I can’t believe how quickly we did fall pregnant once I relaxed about it all, still not got round to telling everyone…still worrying now :lol:
Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I wish I had a supportive doctor, am looking for one now. Not having the support of a family MD puts an added stress to the mix.
Just a question, I was wondering if when you did fall pregnant and it was in the right place if you still had some one sided pain. I guess what I am trying to get at is did you feel different when you had a normal pregnancy, or did it start out feeling the same way as your ectopic. I think I might be pregnant again (period is due tomorrow) and I have some intermittent very mild aching on the same side as my ectopic.
I am so sorry to hear you have had an ectopic pregnancy and a miscarriage. Please do use these forums for support and to share your feelings with women who understand what you have been through.
If you think you are pregnant again you should see a doctor as soon as possible. In the UK hospitals often have walk-in Early Pregnancy Units but I am not sure if you are based here. I do not want to scare you but having had a previous ectopic you are at an increased risk of a second and it is important that this be ruled out or diagnosed as early as possible.
Hi I can fully understand what your going through my Wife had an ep this time last year and then mis carried in November. She is now 5 weeks pregnent and panics with every twinge , pain odd feeling.