Hi everyone, tomorrow would of been our little ones due date 
I’m not 100% how I feel about it right now but I know tomorrow it’s going to kill me! I had a very long drawn out ectopic from Being pregnant for a week at 4 weeks to ending up in theatre at 9 weeks. I find it hard when people ask how far I was as it took 6 weeks from the moment we found out things were not right to the moment the pregnancy was taken away. Anyway I would like to remember the baby in some way tomorrow but unsure if it’s “too much”? A balloon release maybe? Has anyone else remembered in any way xx
Dear Rachel13,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
Anniversaries such as due dates can be very difficult, you are not alone feeling this way.
It has been 7years since my ectopic pregnancy and every year on the anniversary of our loss, I still feel incredibly sad. I think it is remembering what could have been.
I believe you should be able to remember your baby in anyway that brings you comfort and I do not think it is ‘too much’.
Personally, I have a bracelet I wear that is special to me and has a charm to remember my baby and every year I buy a bunch of flowers to remember their beauty, even though they were only in my life for a short time. I personally know someone who has planted a tree that blossoms every year. A balloon release is a beautiful idea.
There is no time frame for how long it takes us to heal emotionally. We will never forget our pregnancy or babies but we can learn to accept what has happened and crucially understand that it wasn’t our fault.
Sending you warm hugs and much love at this difficult time,
Karen x
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I hope you’re doing okay today… I’ll be thinking of you…
It’s 8 weeks today until my due date… I have a tattoo booked to get the pregnancy loss ribbon done… And a little corner with which I have a framed photo of my scan and a candle which I will light and say a few words…
Don’t ever think its “too much”! To us they are everything, things never seem to get much easier… We just learn to deal with it better… Remember you’re special little one any way you feel you need to 
Take care xxx