Hi everyone,
First of all, I’d just like to say I’m sorry for what we have all been through. Heart goes out to each and every one of you.
This may seem like an odd one, but here goes.
I have had 2 x ectopic pregnancies and have had both tubes removed. I can no longer conceive naturally, this I am coming to terms with, or trying to.
My question is, since my latest op, my periods have been so very painful and the days leading up to it unbearable (emotionally). Is there anything I can do to ease this, other than to ask them to take it all away?
I’m 36, so suspect they will say I’m too young, but why? If I can’t conceive, then why not?
Thanks for reading, and in advance for any advice.
X
Sorry, just too add. I’m sorry if this isn’t the right type if thing to post. I’m just at the end of my witts.
I don’t feel like a woman, like I can’t do the one thing I’m ‘here’ to do. The discomfort I’m experiencing is a constant reminder of this to me, which had lead me to reach out.
My latest ectopic ruptured, I was rushed into theatre, they’ve made a mess of my stomach, I feel different and completely inadequate.
Dear Ishrodo,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses. To experience one loss is difficult, to deal with multiple losses is heartbreaking and my heart truly goes out to you.
My periods also changed following my ectopic pregnancy and were heavier and more painful for a while, I also experienced ovulation pain which I had never experienced before. Our bodies go through a great deal and it sometimes takes a while for everything to settle down. Having said this, unfortunately I am not medically trained so if you feel you are unable to tolerate the pain or it is worsening in any way, please discuss this with your GP. Keeping a diary of when the pain happens and a pain scale of 1-10 and if anything helps the pain, such as over the counter medications is often useful for medical professionals too.
I know it is still early days but, when you are ready, you could always speak to your Dr about assistance with conception such as IVF, if you feel this would be right for you.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and I will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
One thing I wish for you to take from this reply is that you are not inadequate in any way. I know that when I had my ectopic pregnancy I also looked for a reason and almost automatically we tend to blame ourselves. From the bottom of my heart, there is nothing you could have done to prevent the ectopic pregnancy from happening. I cannot emphasise enough - you are not to blame. Please be kind to yourself and I send you gentle hugs.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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Hi,
I had my first ever pregnancy in August last year which resulted in having my right tube removed and my second pregnancy this April and after fining out it was ectopic again the doctors tried to only remove the pregnancy and save the tube… it didn’t work so I had a course of methotrexate which has had some pretty rubbish side effects. That didn’t work either and my tube ruptured and I had emergency surgery and I have now had my left tube removed.
That was may 27th, since August 8th I’ve been spotting and all the other period signs are there. I’m just wondering if it’s at all normal for this to be my first period after surgery?