I’ve just had another emergency surgery. Left tube removed. I nearly died. I lost 5 units of blood. I’m traumatised. I lost my right tube in 2014 and now my left. I can’t get my head around this at all. I really can’t. Any chance of having a baby naturally is gone. IVF is now my only option.
The consultant who operated on me last night said my left tube was healthy, no scarring, nothing. The baby had embedded deep in to the tube and during surgery I lost too much blood and they had no option but to remove it.
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancies and losses. You have been through a huge amount in such a short space of time and it is very normal to feel overwhelmed. From your words, I can imagine how frightening the experience must have been and I am sorry you have had to go though this.
Coming to terms with what has happened will take time. You are still in the early days of recovery and are physically and emotionally needing to heal. As you have been through such a devastating experience, if will take time to come to terms with what has happened. This is normal and please do allow time to grieve. We sadly do hear from women who have experienced two ectopic pregnancies.
You will need space to process what has happened and it can feel isolating. With us here at the Trust, we have been through similar experiences and I can understand how lonely it feels. You have friends here and please do continue to lean on us for as long as you need.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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thank you so much for your reply. Being honest, I feel numb. I’m 36 and I cannot believe this has happened. I’ve never met or known of anyone to have had both tubes removed due to ectopic pregnancies. It is just so unfair. Why me! I feel like I’m watching someone else going through this.
It is amazing really. This time around I was only 5 weeks pregnant and the last time I was 7 weeks when the symptoms started. This time the pain was horrendeous. I’ll never forget it. But Thank God, I made it and for that I’m thankful. x
I am in exactly the same position as you in fact very similar we are the same age and I had my first eptopic in 2014 removal of the right tube and then exactly a week ago my early scan showed it was a live eptopic pregnancy and I had to have surgery in which they removed the left hand tube.
I like you feel rather numb and finding it very hard.
The doctors have said IVF is the only option for me and currently I am remaining positive about that but inside still haven’t really processed everything. Me and my husband don’t yet have children and we have been trying for 8 months so for this to happen last week has hit me hard.
I have looked online for support but I haven’t found much form people that have had both tubes removed so when I saw your post last night I just wanted to reach out to say hi and if you want to talk as we are in the same position.
So sorry for what you’re going through. My wife is going through her 2nd ectopic, we had the first in 2014 and afterwards suffered 3 more miscarriages and only heard the heartbeat of our baby one time. We never made it to 12 weeks. After 2 years of not TTC we decided to try again, and before we could have any medical assistance to keep the baby we find its ectopic again. My wife lost her tube last time after trying to use medication to save it. I’m terrified for her, and dont know anyone who’s lost both tubes and had “normal” miscarriages on top of it. I dont know if IVF will be a logical option because the other miscarriages. We’ve had a hundred tests and nothing has ever been found. Sorry to rant, just feeling lost.
Hi i had my 2nd tube removed 2 weeks ago and still recovering physically and mentally its so hard. My first was in 2012 and had a miscarriage inbetween. The surgeon also said my tube was really healthy but due to heavy bleeding had to remove my remaining tube, im 32 years old. I dont know anyone who has had an ectopic let alone 2. I still feel at a loss with it all
It’s so hard. I am still struggling with the thought of not being able to get pregnant naturally again. One thing though, we’re not alone in this. So many women have had both tubes removed x