Just reaching out to see if anyone has had a similar experience. I feel so alone at the moment, in April I had my right tube removed due to an ectopic at 6 weeks. Tried hard to recover and heal emotionally and physically, finally felt confident enough to try again and Iām now 1 week out of hospital from a ruptured ectopic in my left tube. So both tubes gone, 2 losses, in 6 months. Im just so angry and upset why twice? I have no underlying conditions to increase my odds other than having the first ectopicā¦everyone just says what bad luck. Itās just not fair.
Iām so sorry you are going through this. It really is unfair. Itās harder knowing the chances are so small without an underlying condition, itās like 2% chance.
I had an ectopic but it resulted in having methotrexate. Since then Iāve got pregnant once more it ended in a chemical. Itās just been very hard not knowing if I will ever conceive or have a successful pregnancy.
It is only a week since it all happened, its important to take your time to come to terms with it all. Then if you do decide to try again, youāve been with your partner for over 2 years then you could think about ivf which will likely be free.
Iāve been through IVF 3 times. The thought of it initially was quite scary to me. I thought Iād never do it and it really wasnāt a bad experience at all.
Hey Elocin,
So sorry for your losses and two traumatic events in such a short time. I also had 2 EPs this yearā¦ mine were on the same side, first treated w MTX last Feb and second with a salpingectomy 6 weeks ago. A bit different from your situation in that I still have one tube left, but I wanted to message because I do share your pain and frustration at not having any known risk factors or explanation for mine either. My first EP was hard, but with the 2nd one itās been hard not to feel defeated. Iāve been back at work for 3 weeks now after taking 3 off, and I struggle with energy and focus. I sometimes get completely overwhelmed abd swept away by grief, sadness, and fear.
I did talk with another woman on the forum in the last month or so that lost both tubes and was planning to move to IVF. It should be fairly easy to find our convo in the recent-ish one if youād like to talk with someone who, like ChaoticBlues, is taking the IVF route. And Im here too if youād like to talk some more.
Take care and rest up - your latest EP is still very close and although it wonāt get easy, it will get easier with time. 
. Cam
Thanks guys it means so much to know Iām not alone. Itās such a hard thing, weāve had losses before but this feels different itās the pain of a loss and the pain of physically losing something as well. We might look towards IVF in the future. Iām a bit scared of the idea of pregnancy at the moment if Iām honest. I am so lucky I do have a 3 year old and so grateful for him but I can help feel angry about this past year. Iām definitely going to try and communicate on the forums and reach out as itās hard isnāt it explaining how you feel to someone who thankfully hasnāt experienced an ectopic. X
Hi there,
Just wanted to share that Iām currently going through the same thing. I was diagnosed with my 2nd ectopic this week. My first was in August and in my right tube, this time my left. Youāre right, itās not fair. Iām wishing you healing, physically and emotionally.
rmartioski:
Hi there,Just wanted to share that Iām currently going through the same thing. I was diagnosed with my 2nd ectopic this week. My first was in August and in my right tube, this time my left. Youāre right, itās not fair. Iām wishing you healing, physically and emotionally.
Hi
Thanks for sharing your experience and making me feel less alone in this 
Wishing you healing, I wouldnāt wish this on my worst enemy. Just want you to know youāre not alone x
Iām due to go back to work in a week and Iām feeling a lot more positive and well in myself. Give yourself time one ectopic is traumatic let alone 2 so close together. Iāve been doing some counselling which has helped a lot; definitely recommend if youāre feeling itās all a bit of a struggle
Hopefully youāve had a relaxing and joyful Christmas
I just read this thread as I too have experienced two ectopic pregnancies, one in May last year in my right tube treated with methotrexate and the second 2 weeks ago treated with surgery to remove my tube. I also had a chemical pregnancy in between the 2 ectopics. Also no underlying conditions like you. Iām so sorry youāve all had to experience this too, itās so unfair 
Just wanted to say I understand how you feel, Iām also angry, upset and feel so isolated not wanting to see anyone (all my friends are pregnant).
Hope youāre all doing better since you posted on this thread and sending lots of positivity and luck to all of you xx
Hi ladies,
As much as I hate having had to experience two EPs, Im also grateful to have others like you who understand the struggle. LDD and rmartioski, sorry to hear about your experiences. I agree with Elocin, therapy has been core for me in the last year and Iād also recommend it. This weeks is one year since treatment of my first EP and itās been tough, though Iām usually finding that anticipation is worst than the day of. Iāve been finding that mental recovery is a longer/harder journey after my second and am trying to give myself some grace and space to heal, even if I wish it were āoverā. Be kind with yourselves, this is an extremely hard thing to go through. Im here if anyone needs to talk.
Cam xo
Hi Cam,
Thanks for your reply, as you say itās horrible experiencing this but knowing there are ladies like you out there who have unfortunately had to experience this too makes me feel less alone.
Iām really sorry this week has been the one year mark for you, I know how you feel Iām already thinking about mine coming up in a few months and already feel so anxious anytime the thought crosses my mind. Thatās reassuring to hear youāve found the anticipation worse than the actual day though.
Iām glad therapy has helped you and Elocin. Iāve actually arranged to have therapy starting next week as Iām finding it really hard to cope with everything after the second ectopic, so hoping that it might help me even if just a little bit.
Look after yourself and sending you lots of positive vibes xx
Hey LDD,
Thanks for the lovely response toi! Glad to hear youāre getting some support. Itās a tough journey and you deserve all the help you can get to get through it. Keep us posted on how youāre doing.
Cam
I have just come across this post, I am currently in the same situation, I had a left tubal ectopic in November of 2023, and just 5 days ago was rushed to theatre with internal bleeding another ectopic in right tube I didnāt know I was pregnant either. I feel the same anger, upset that they said my remaining tube was ok, yet 7 months later here I am having to relive the whole experience again. Itās not fair, I pleaded for them to save my tube if they could in the anaesthetic room, but came out and it was gone itās just soul destroying as your not only loosing a baby, your loosing apart of your body that helps you to make a baby
I came across your post and just wanted to say Iām really sorry to hear about your second loss and everything you have been through and still are. Iāve had a tube removed early in the year from a ectopic and then a miscarriage.
Youāre right itās not fair and it doesnāt make sense.
I hope you have support around you and Take care of yourself xx
Hi all
Iām reading this as I wait a plan at the hospital for my second ectopic
First was in February this year and we conceived quickly in July (I didnāt know but had an off feeling as my period was different so did a test). The doctors are waiting for a second opinion but think itās ectopic in same tube as the first time which was treated with methotrexate
Donāt understand why this is happening to me again. We started trying to conceive in January and itās been awful ever since
If you have any advice about how you got through it and if you had any investigations done then please let me know
Hope youāre all doing good xx