Hi Devastated Dad,
My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry that your wife and you are suffering an ectopic pregnancy and loss. I know what a confusing and heartbreaking time this can be. I’m glad you have found this website and these boards. Everyone here is, unfortunately, connected by this experience.
The experience you have gone through is made harder during this pandemic. Please know, there was nothing that was done to cause this ectopic pregnancies, nor anything we can do to prevent them. The most important thing is to look after yourself and your wife. The recovery, both physically and emotionally, had no set pathway. It is different for each person and takes time.
As best as you can keep the communication open between your wife and yourself. I often recommend to women that a journal may help them start processing their thoughts and emotions. Often there is so much to express after this experience and it can be hard to sort through everything.
If you or she are interested in exploring counselling, we suggest that you ask for a referral by your GP or use a practitioner who has undertaken recognised training and is registered with the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy. It is also a good idea to look for someone who has an interest in the area of women’s health or fertility problems. The charity MIND also can provide counselling with trained practitioners locally at affordable prices. Counselling charges are means-tested (you pay what you can afford) and so you may receive counselling support for a nominal fee or even for free.http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Please know we are with you and your wife and we are here for you for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
Registered Charity Number: 1071811
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During the coronavirus outbreak, The EPT team is still working hard to provide crucial information and support to women and families experiencing ectopic pregnancy as quickly and efficiently as we can.
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