I’m so thankful to have found this site!
About 2 1/2 weeks ago we found out we were expecting and were beyond excited. Over the weekend I started developing lower back pain and cramping but all the online sites said it was normal. By Sunday evening I had pain in my lower right side, again supposedly normal. By Monday morning I just knew something was wrong and I’m so thankful I listened to my body. We went to the er. They immediately drew blood and did a vaginal ultrasound. They were unable to find a fetus in the uterus but said its normal not to at 6.5 weeks but there was a cyst on my right ovary and possibly another cyst or an etopic in the right tube. They gave me 3 options. 1) wait 48 hours and continually check my blood work 2) give me the shot to terminate the pregnancy (even though they couldn’t tell me for sure it was an etopic) or 3) surgey . We decided on surgery. It was indeed an etopic pregnancy, they also removed a cyst on my right ovary and had to remove the right tube due to all the damage.
I’m now just a few days post op, very sore and cant look at my incision sites on my tummy. I still feel pregnant. The tears come on so quicky, so often. I cant talk about it but can type about it. I dont know of anyone else who has gone through this. I’ve been reading posts for hours on this site and its been so helpful.
Hi Whitney,
I am so sorry to hear about what happened. It seems to be normal that one minute people are expecting a baby and within days they have to make a decision about how to manage an ectopic pregnancy.
This site does help as you know you are not alone but I wish there was a physical support group that I could attend. I am two weeks post op and although I still cant walk as long as I used to, I can am definitely better than the first week. It will take much longer to get back to normal physically (i.e doing exercise, getting rid of the bloating, scars etc) and mentally.
I also had trouble looking at my wounds on the stomach but it does get better. The big dressings and strips are now off but I have still had to cover the sites with small normal plasters but I can now look in the mirror for longer.
Take your time, and let the tears fall if needed.
Nikki
Heart goes out to you Whitney, sorry to hear about your recent loss and the discomfort and pain you’ve been through. Wishing you get all the time and love you need to heal.
I was wondering if it’s possible to spot the difference between a cyst and a embryo in the fallopian tube…and if so, how early on is it possible to spot this in an ultrasound scan?
Does anyone know?
Hey,
I feel exactly the same way. I feel devastated. I had my operation 5 weeks ago and still can’t look. I just feel it when I put cream on it. I’m sure it wil get easier. It’s just a bit hard to see sometimes isn’t it but this site is amazing and I’m so glad we have somewhere where we can talk openly about what’s happened with people who understand you without you having to explain why all the time xx
Hi Whitney,
I’m so sorry for you loss and that you had to go through what you did. Today I am also 4 days post op. I’m grateful I found this group as the past 6 days seems to be a blur. I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago. I started having sharp pains on Tuesday evening last week and went in to A&E. It was a horrible experience, to cut a long story short. I was told to come back the next day and after about 6 different scans was told I had a rare condition called heterectopic pregnancy which is where one foetus implants itself in your uterus and another somewhere else. For me the other place was in my tube, I started bleeding and was told surgery was the only option. The injection(I’ve forgotten what it’s called) was not even an option because the doctors said it would kill the other healthy baby. Even with that I was told to be prepared that the trauma of surgery could cause a miscarriage to the other foetus. It’s some days after the surgery now and I have to stay strong. I am extremely grateful because I still have what seems to be a healthy baby- just praying that all is well and it goes to term. However at the same time I feel I can’t mourn for the baby I have lost as family and friends tell me as I’m still in such a delicate state if I fall apart I could lose this baby. Just hoping one day the pain will go away.
I just wanted to say hello. I am 2 days past op. I also cannot look at the wound sites. I’m glad it’s not just me. I’m also having trouble eating and sleeping (hence why I am writing this at 1.30am!) I seem to randomly cry, I can’t stop myself.
My story is, I don’t know how to start. We have been trying for 6 years. We waited patiently for our IVF turn to come around. It came, lots of drugs, tests, hormones all over the place, my first ever surgery, more tests and scans and then for it all to end this way. My little embie that went for a wander 
Must be so stressful for you to know you have a little one to look after too Moonpearl. You are so strong. Allow yourself to feel, I think we all need those moments of tears, you don’t have to be strong all of the time xxx