I had an ectopic pregnancy at 5 weeks +3 two months ago. I miscarried naturally. I’ve now had two cycles and thought I’d be ready to try again but I just feel too scared. I still feel as though my body physically hasn’t recovered as I can still feel pains in my side around my time of the month. I feel as though everyone expects me to be trying again as we were told I only needed to wait two cycles but I just don’t feel ready. I know it’s only been a short time but I’m worried that I might always feel this way. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone else has the same feeling of fear? And wonder if I should be speaking to my GP about the pain I’m still feeling physically.
Someone who has had a similar experience to me! I discovered I was pregnant about 5 weeks ago, when I was 5 weeks. Around 5wks 5days began bleeding. Managed on expectant management and it’s ongoing hcg tests.
My bleeding has lasted 4 weeks but I had a break of about 5 days and was undecided whether to have sex (protected) the whole thing felt very scary. I’m not trying to conceive but I think personally it’s going to take me a few months just to get over this experience, the SHOCK of my body and my life suddenly veering left in such a scary way.
Slightly different because I wasn’t trying to conceive but in terms of fear, I feel the same.
I’ve read a lot of people suffer ovulation / different period pains as possible scar tissue etc settles down. I’m considering taking the pill for a couple of months once my hcg allows. I feel like my reproductive system has run a marathon with weeks of bleeding even though not heavy, but cramps etc.
I think what you say makes total sense. I feel the same. You need time to mentally and physically recover. I’m usually strong and independent and this has floored me.
I dont think you will always feel this way but you need time to draw breath and recover. Take some time, focus on Xmas and relax etc
Thank you so much for your reply. I think you’re spot on…it’s the shock! You just assume that when the time comes your body will just do its job and when it doesn’t it’s very confusing. Also as you say it’s like your reproductive system has run a marathon. Thats surely not an easy thing to recover from. Definitely going to be a bit easier on myself I think and enjoy Christmas etc. Maybe think things over again in the new year. Thank you again