Hi Naomi2023,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss. Unfortunately, as I’m not a medical professional, I do not know your specific situation and can not give specific guidance on when you should resume ttc. I would encourage you to consult with your surgeon and medical practitioners. However, generally, the Trust and other medical professionals advise you to wait for at least three months or two full menstrual cycles (periods) before trying to conceive for both physical and emotional reasons.
Physically, this timeframe is to allow your cycle to return and for there to be a clear Last Menstrual Period (LMP) date to be able to date a new pregnancy. The LMP date is what is used to decide when to scan a pregnancy; information that is invaluable in ensuring you are not suffering from another ectopic pregnancy. The first proper period you have after an ectopic pregnancy is likely to be heavier than usual, and the second is more like your usual period. A normal period would suggest you are hormonally ready to be able to try to conceive. Having two periods can also give an idea of menstrual cycle length, which may be different for a few months after your ectopic before settling back into its usual rhythm. This wait allows the internal inflammation and bruising from the ectopic and any associated treatment to heal.
In addition to the physical aspects of ectopic pregnancy, many women also feel an intense emotional impact. Taking time before trying to conceive again enables the necessary process of grief to surface and be worked through. The emotional recovery that is often needed can be significant, and many underestimate this aspect. Some studies suggest that women who conceive immediately after treatment for ectopic pregnancy are more at risk of suffering a subsequent ectopic and, as painful as it is to think about, the incidence of miscarriage (which is not linked to an ectopic pregnancy) is 1 in 5 pregnancies, so taking that extra bit of time enables you some emotional recovery to feel strong enough to face whatever is coming next should there be further bad news.
However, it is recommended to take folic acid for at least 12 weeks prior to conception.
We understand how nerve-wracking this all can be. We are here for you, for emotional support too, and these Boards are a safe space for you. We are here for as long as you need.
With good wishes,
Michele
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
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