I had an EP in the right tube diagnosed at 6+6 after mild spotting. I had a medical treatment as have had issues with abscess in the left tube a decade ago I wanted to preserve as much as possible. I’ve been so focused on avoiding surgery that 6 weeks later, in everyone’s eyes I should be “over” this but in reality it’s just sinking in. I’m heartbroken as I never thought I’d naturally have a baby and now I’m just lost. Did anyone feel the same and where or who did they talk to. I feel so lost right now
I haven’t had surgery but had methotrexate 2 weeks ago nearly and having to go back to the hospital for bloods every few days is just heart breaking. I have had a good few days but today I’ve just broke down and don’t really know what to do so I know how you’re feeling. Big hugs xx
Sorry to hear you are both going through this, I know how you feel - to give you some hope I was discharged last Thursday 4 weeks after having the methotrexate injection, the going back to hospital for blood tests and the waiting wasn’t easy but I do feel better after being discharged, I feel more able to move on from it, so it does get better x
Dear katielou32,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss,
When we experience ectopic pregnancy we are suddenly faced with a life threatening emergency and it’s treatment, reduction in fertility, concerns about the future and the loss of our babies. Experiencing any one of these is an ordeal, putting them together is immense and your feelings are completely normal.
Many women experience feelings of isolation after an ectopic pregnancy - I did, too. It is a frightening experience. Like you, I reached out to the Trust for support and we will be here for you to lean on for as long as you need.
We at the Trust believe that talking through what happened and your emotions as and when you can helps the healing process. We operate a helpline service and there’s no pressure whatsoever but if you would ever like the opportunity to speak over the phone to someone who has been through a similar experience, do feel free to call, details are below. We can take things at your pace entirely and you are free to ask any questions that are on your mind. You can talk about the ordeal you have been through and express your feelings to vent and let off some steam. We can exchange emails too, if you prefer that route. We’ll simply be here for you, however you wish and for as long as you wish.
In addition, you can ask to see a GP at your practice and ask them to explore ways in which you can get help and this can include referrals for “talking therapies” or counselling. We have information on our website about finding counselling services.
The charity Mind may also be of assistance. They have local centres and support groups and can offer services on a means-tested basis or sometimes free. You can find your local centre following this link if that may be useful too: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/local-minds/
Above all, be kind to yourself and allow time to grieve, to heal both physically and emotionally.
Sending much love and warm hugs,
Karen x
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