Two eptopic pregnancies

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Hi,

New to this!

So, I had a eptopic pregnancy 6 years ago which resulting in the embryo being absorbed by my body with no medical interaction needed. The pregnancy was near my left Fallopian tube, no other information given. The pregnancy was planned but turns out I had a cheating boyfriend who passed on chlamydia which I found out weeks after the eptopic. Needless to say the relationship did not continue. Fast forward 6 years later, in a very loving relationship and wanted to have a baby together. So, I became pregnant but I knew something wasn’t right. Doctors, early pregnancy department kind of fobbed me off as the pains were just normal pains you get when early pregnant. Long story short, a few days later I’m in hospital, having the embryo and my left Fallopian tube removed. The surgeon said the other tube looked ok but wasn’t really interested in reassuring me that I would ever be able to have a baby again. So 3 weeks after my ordeal, I am so confused, hurt, at total dismay as I don’t know what the future holds. My partner doesn’t have children and I know is desperate for one ( I have a 16 year old son previously) . I guess I’m just looking for some hope. I’m thinking of ending things with my partner as I don’t want him to not have children, I don’t feel it’s fair for him to miss out. Please someone send some hope my way!!!

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Hi Tye123,

I’m so sorry that you’ve suffered an ectopic pregnancy and loss. It can leave us with many questions and I’ll do my best to help.

Your surgery is still very recent and it’s so important to look after yourself right now. You’ve suffered both a physical and emotional trauma. Recovery from an ectopic pregnancy can take some time and is very individual. Please do be kind to yourself and allow yourself all the time and space that you need to heal. It’s very normal to have worries about trying to conceive. Many feel that way; I did and still struggle with it.

With future pregnancies, it is possible to have early scans through your EPU, from six weeks, to ensure you have the right help in the beginning. On your fertility, the egg from tubeless side can be picked up by other Fallopian tube, and that means that fertility is not halved with having a Fallopian tube removed. Conservative estimates suggest that an egg produced on the tubeless side manages to descend the remaining tube around 15 to 20% of the time. This means that rather than your fertility being halved it has been affected by around 30% or, looking at it another way, it means we have around a 70% opportunity of conception with each menstrual (period) cycle.

It may provide some comfort to know that it is usually possible to conceive successfully after having an ectopic pregnancy, though the time it generally takes varies considerably from couple to couple. Approximately 65 per cent of women are healthily pregnant within 18 months of an ectopic pregnancy and some studies show this rises to around 85 per cent after two years.

The Trust advises couples to wait at least two full menstrual cycles or three months before trying to conceive again. This is to allow time for your body to heal and emotions to surface and be worked through. However, you can start taking folic acid now. It is recommended to take folic acid for at least 12 weeks prior to conception.

We understand how nerve wracking this all can be. We are here for you for emotion support too, and these Boards are a safe space for you. We here for as long as you need.

With good wishes,

Michele

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I was in a similar situation found out I had chlamydia while in a relationship … I had an etopic pregnancy a while after that and now trying to conceive with my new partner and I’m starting to feel hopeless …

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The doctor was also very careless and did not give any hope I would conceive again … I’ve read stories of people conceiving after etopic but these are just people that haven’t had chlamydia and it just still doesn’t give me any hope