Dear Koda,
I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy loss,
Allowing the body to recover, ovulation to occur and the first period to arrive is often suggested by doctors as the ideal waiting period before beginning to have full penetrative intercourse (sex) again, which means waiting until around six weeks. This allows for the healing of the muscles and gives you more confidence that your body is returning to its normal rhythm. Having sexual intercourse before the stated period of six weeks may result in an uncomfortable experience, including pain in the lower abdomen. Some couples, however, feel they want to have sex before this time and, ultimately, the decision about when to have sexual intercourse again is one for you and your partner and should be based on when you both feel ready.
If you choose to wait, it does not mean that you cannot find other ways to be intimate should you choose to.
It is important to remember that medical professionals recommend that you do not get pregnant for two menstrual (period) cycles or three months after an ectopic pregnancy and, if you do want to have sex before this time, regular follow-ups need to be completed and also contraception needs to be considered.
Ultimately it will be a decision between the two of you. I hope this helps.
Sending much love,
Karen x
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