Is oral sex okay after surgery?

It’s been 3 weeks since surgery and no pain and my sutures are healing nicely. Would oral sex be okay or should I wait?

Thank you

Dear Caitlyn,

I am so sorry to hear of your ectopic pregnancy and loss.

Allowing the body to recover, ovulation to occur and the first period to arrive is often suggested by doctors as the ideal waiting period before women begin to have full penetrative intercourse (sex) again, which means waiting until around six weeks. This allows for healing of the muscles and gives you more confidence that your body is returning to its normal rhythm. Some couples, however, feel they want to have sex before this time and, ultimately, the decision about when to have sexual intercourse again is one for you and your partner and should be based on when you both feel ready. If you choose to wait, it does not mean that you cannot find other ways to be intimate should you choose to. I absolutely understand you wanting to get back to normal on a number of levels and oral sex can play a part in this as long as you are comfortable.

Sending much love,

Karen x

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